HOW DIFFICULT IS IT TO ACCEPT A NO!!!

Ouch!!!! No hey wait a minute…..!!!why are you saying a NO!!!

Are we ever ready for a NO for anything or from
anyone. We need to always need to be appreciated, acknowledged, applauded. Well in reality no one is really keen on doing that all the time. As each one is having their own share of baggage to be dealing with on their path. A simple NO can actually be beginning of a rollercoaster ride which can make us feel like we don’t know what’s hitting is from where.

There can be times, when we don’t wish to do certain things and it can get difficult for us to say no. Then we search for excuses and find ways to say a subtle no. Thanks to our mobiles, the texts go quick and easy to escape what we would normally find uncomfortable.

The statement goes both ways, whether we want to say no to something or to accept a no by someone else. We try to push and renegotiate to get what we want as there is also an ego that’s needs nursing and nurturing. In the bargain when the NO is strong it can actually hurt us to the extent that we may have to move away just to heal.

There are a lot of different kind of threshold for the NO. When there is a repeated No it makes one think okay maybe this person wishes to move on and they may stop including you into their activities. At times our own perceptions play certain illusions and we can misinterpret a NO. Life is difficult for both of them as both are pained. As the NO has not been taken well. Irrespective of whether we like it or not accepting it is way better.

Is there a way to say a NO, that’s upto each person. How would they like to say no, would it be a diplomatic one or clear one.

Should one keep the other persons sentiments in mind when saying no?

Yes, Ofcourse!!!

We should always keep the other persons sentiments in mind. Along with that we have to know that beliefs and values too come into play. They maybe excited or concerned reasons can be anything when they are asking for something from you. It’s totally up to you as to how much you value your relationship and would NO hurt them.

Sometimes to humor a loved we may just play along though we are not in approval and that can really get to you. Can make you irritable or have inner conflicts within you. At times like this, in a discreet or subtle fashion one can tell the other person saying though you love to be part of it, you cannot be a part. This whole sentence can be said without a NO being put in the which would normally hurt someone.

No matter what the situation can be :-

Invitation for some event or get together
Boundaries being overstepped
Work relating
Family refusing to take up some chores
Self nurturing time ( I don’t have time)
Relationships discords
Taking up responsibilities for something
Owning up to mistakes or faults maybe even failures
Acknowledging someone for their sincerity or work

I can keep writing a whole lot of different reasons, as I always state it’s not about pointing out the faults or labeling them. It’s about learning and understanding our own weakness and beliefs. Trying to make ourselves better and stronger who can handle whatever situation we can be in.

As I stated earlier it’s easy to put a NO, in a text the same is difficult to say it over a call or a in person. It may makes us uncomfortable on our seat as we can see or hear the other persons disappointment or feeling of sadness, rejection maybe even pain.

One of the main reason for many arguments and discords is we find it difficult to say a NO or to set boundaries as they keep collapsing and we don’t know how to build it back. That’s when there is a collapse of our belief system and chaos with emotions and everything starts spiraling the wrong way. Sometimes the first no may not affect us, eventually we will reach a threshold and the next NO will take the brunt of all the rejections or NO’s that have come our way.

It’s funny how everything is interlinked, and how one thing can lead to another and leading us to have an emotional meltdown. Life is not easy for anyone those who feels the other side of the grass is greener need to take the journey to the other side to only realize that the view to the other side was way better and easier.

Now that we are kind of understanding how a simple NO can create havoc for us how can we help ourselves:-

Accept a NO with grace and try to understand why the NO has been given.
Respect the other persons feelings and thoughts including space.
Don’t fear to actually make the effort to call or meet the person face to face and express reasons why there is a NO from you.
You can define your boundaries and stick to it and also let others know this your boundaries and you don’t appreciate people to overstep.
Remember that we too may say a NO we have to be sensitive to that.

Learn to be patient to know and understand
What
Why
When
Where
Which
Of the situation before jumping to conclusions.

When you get a NO it’s not the end of the world for you, there is still other door and opportunities that can come up.

By saying a NO we don’t mean to hurt someone nor does someone wish to hurt us. It’s just that our thoughts for a particular subject is not matching.

Reach out to Samskara Healing if you have an issue or trouble to let go for guidance, support or a session.

🌺Palash 🌺
Spiritual Healer @samskarahealing
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