Do we always have to please the world?

A question is often asked and answers are given as per each one’s perceptions on life and situations. Some people are called manipulative while some get manipulated.

Is this okay?

Well, when we see it in hindsight Of course it’s not okay to get manipulated or be manipulative. Nevertheless, we see this happen pretty often.

So why would one do something like this?

There is a belief and understanding to get something we have to obviously be of understanding and try to negotiate and give something in return. It can also be looked at as you scratch my back and I will scratch your back.

One can easily get used to this, and there comes a point where you can realize manipulation is what you need, to get things done. So to what extent would you go to getting the point of pleasing and letting yourself be used or treated in a way that just causes you to need work done.

Each one has a threshold and they work up to the point of which they can bear all this. Eventually, when one crosses the threshold everything can blow up or go out of control. So now the next question is-

Why does one have to do something like this?

Or

Is it really necessary to please the world?

The answer lies within you, it’s totally up to you. What is it that you wish? Do you wish to be people pleaser or do you wish to do things that make you happy? The choices are plenty the answers are few but excuses are also plenty. The choice lies with you.

In reality, when you get caught in the drama of trying to portray a self that needs approval and pleasing from others it becomes a habit. It also gives rise to a point of being insecure and your confidence level will obviously take a downward turn. The simple reason is you are caught in the web of drama and your beliefs get you caught in this vicious cycle.

How do you get out of this or stop doing it?

The first step is to learn to say no or enough I am not getting caught in the cycle of trying to please or do things to get noticed. We are social beings and we are conditioned that when we do something we get noticed or we hear the praises which make us gloat. So it becomes a strong trait for us where we are always conscious of the people around us.

What would others/people say?

A question that often lingers in one’s mind and the answers come as per the situation or perception that the person holds onto. Both can be tricky and at the same time not very clear. The clarity would be great but when one can never be sure that leads to having a space of lack and uncertainties.

These uncertainties lead us towards trying to please the world doing things only to gain attention or approval from others. At times we may get caught in the web of desperation that we may drown ourselves in denial and refuse to accept the reality of the situation.

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Written by
JayaPalashri
The Spiritual Princess
Shaman
Reiki Grandmaster
Meditation Facilitator
Samskara Healing