FAILURE!!!! CAN THIS EVER BE ACCEPTABLE
I don’t think so, one is never ready to accept failure, and let’s not even talk about acknowledging it or addressing it. FAILURE is such a taboo for many, as it may show our weakness.
Can we deal with that??
Not at all, we are never ready to deal with our weakness or even talk about it. It just makes us feel incompetent and weak. It is more like a mask has been removed and you are showing a self of yours which one would never wish to expose or look at.
Our own beliefs, conditioning from society we go about life believing that failure is not accepted and we try to run from it, the more we run the more it follows us.
When I am talking about failure here, it’s just not about education or academic it’s about
>life,
>relationships,
>beliefs
>commitments
>Work
In academics or education it’s easy to get labeled and that could be the on set beliefs of
accepting the fact that one is not worth anything and is not capable being successful in anything in life.
Many countries have now taken serious steps so that children don’t get labeled which would be imbibed strongly and they carry it in to adult life. Life can get to becoming difficult for these children as they move feeling vulnerable and not accepted by society.
As adults at times, we put our failures and fears on our children and put high expectations and thresholds for them to reach. This is not met at times and that become a turmoil for the family.
This one aspect of us not accepting failures, similarly failures in other aspects of life is equally not addressed or spoken about. When everything is going wrong and there is a dead end, we have people coming in and saying all the wrong things.
It’s okay everything will be fine
God is there trust
Don’t worry all is well
Certain statements like this, is going to be of no help to a person who has just failed or reached a dead end. These statements may actually drive them to becoming more frustrated or feel helpless.
One may feel uncomfortable and not know what to say as it is awkward moment. So the uncomforted self of ours will bring out wrong statements having sympathy. A person who has failed does not need sympathy, they need empathy and someone saying, I am here for you.
All you need to do is just reach out, we can seek help or see what’s best that’s needs to be done. Assure them that every dark alley has a light at the end. You just need to gather your strength and move ahead.
It’s okay to fail, it’s okay fail again, just remember Rome was not built in a day. So we make mistakes and we realize our mistakes. If there is repeated failures, time to think what’s really wrong and what has to be done. If you see a pattern of failures time to understand why this is happening.
As the old proverb goes
“ Failure is the stepping stone to success”.
Instead of shying away from failures we learn from the mistakes and understand the reasons and weakness for the failure. Change your weakness in to strength and accepting the reasons and knowing how to trudge ahead move on.
Never allow someone to bring you down or peer pressure push you into a spiral of feeling shame or guilt.
Let us look at some ways to accept failure and move on :- ( to help ourselves or loved ones)
Do not give up easily
Know set backs happen but that’s part of life
Avoid negative talk and labels effect you know your own worth and work for a better tomorrow
Learn from the situations and try be positive with trying different ways
Look for ways to get motivated and bring in inspiration for your work
Know everyone fail and have ups and downs you are not alone.
Seek a support group or system to help one get through this journey
No one is perfect so knowing that go about your work.
We make the society, it has our own thoughts and opinions out there. Change your thought process and embrace failure, it’s not something to shy away from. One needs to know it a stepping stone for learning from our mistakes and understanding the situation and moving towards being successful.
Failure is not something to be shameful about, it’s just about trying to know and understand what’s wrong and how to move ahead accepting our mistakes.
Failures, should become our teachers where we work on those mistakes and make it our strength to move ahead towards success.
Failure is not the end of the world, there is more to life so accept failures and learn from the mistakes.
Reach out to Samskara Healing if you have an issue or trouble to let go for guidance, support or a session.
🌺Palash 🌺
Spiritual Healer @samskarahealing
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