LESSONS I HAVE LEARNT FROM MY MISTAKES IN THE FLOW OF LIFE!
I often introspect into my life and try to understand what, how and why certain events happen for me. Before this I would cringe and cry wallowing in self pity being very sensitive to even the smallest comment. Over a period of time attending various workshops ( similar to what I conduct now ) helped me understand the importance of my self.
The journey was not easy, and at times when one tries to do good and then getting targeted is too painful to handle. Now when I Introspect into those bitter lessons, they have actually healed me to become a better person and a healer today. Though then thanking was the last thing on my mind. Of late I thank all the wonderful people who got me great learnings in my life.
It’s thanks to them and their push that today I stand being healed and healing people who come with very similar issues. It’s more or less like I know and feel what the healee is going through not the only cause of being empathetic but also I have healed myself out of something similar or close to something like that.
But through this whole process I have set some strong boundaries and I learnt the importance of these boundaries only after I became a healer. I also realized my boundaries are strong and I don’t let it collapse no matter what. I have asked myself if my ego is also playing a role. But no it’s not, what’s standing strong is my self respect and self love.
It has taken me years to work on this and bring it to where it is at the moment. I also noticed that if any time that I feel attacked or threatened I subconsciously step back or move away. I don’t even give a second look. This I realized recently thats how and why I move away. I sat with the situation realizing I was not hurt but my
self respect and love took the dominant seat in my life.
Now enough of me going on and on about all this let me get to the facts of what actually the title says.
Some hard lessons that I have learnt are :-
>Learn to say no:- this was an important lesson for me to learn as I never learned to say no. I would often allow myself to be used as a doormat. This would often bring in pain, rejection, humiliation, and at times feeling totally let down. I would cry and wallow in self-pity but would go back to doing exactly the same thing without understanding the importance of the lessons that were imparted to me. Eventually, when I started to acknowledge the lessons I slowly started to say no which actually made me feel very uncomfortable. Through the boundaries that I started putting it helped me to say a no when I was unable or didn’t want to do something or be part of something.
>Keep your opinion to yourself:- my opinion would often be expressed without giving it a second thought. At times this could be misquoted or sent forward being rephrased and would get me into unwanted trouble or awkward moments. These brought tremendous lessons for me to know my opinion is my opinion and there is no need for me to express it to anyone. It took me a lot of bitter moments to come to this realization.
>Art of diplomacy:- this is yet to be brought in an articulated into my life as I still struggle with this one aspect. The reason being I speak truthfully from my heart and that can actually cause discomfort or pain for someone else.
Not that I wish to give them that pain or discomfort it’s just that I cannot lie or try to paint a rosy picture when the facts are something else. I’d rather speak blatantly without any filters then put icing and frills for the same so that the other person is not offended. Even though at times I know people move away because I speak the truth. But now I usually refrain from saying the facts I let it be and I tell them you will know eventually. This is an area where I am working regularly and I have tremendous lessons that come my way regularly.
>The art of letting go:– this gets very difficult and it’s never easy to actually let go. I would find it extremely difficult to let go or even accept what’s happened with me. I would hold onto it for days and days and keep on reliving the same thing in my mind. Going through the same emotions again and again. It would be really difficult for me to even think about letting go. Though I would say I am letting go I just couldn’t bring about letting go or forgiving the person who I felt hurt me. Again over the years, I have learned how important it is to let go and move on. This is something I always emphasize with everyone and I know it’s not easy.
>Don’t jump out of turn:- this was a big one for me. I would jump and be there first in line to help anyone. No matter what, I wouldn’t even think if they need my help or not. I would just turn up and go out of my way to help them. Show them the way, even open my door for them when need be. Not once I think of the point do they really want it. Are they ready for actually listening to me or the truth? Over the years I have learned and set boundaries not to jump but sit it down and see if they wish to reach out.
>Trying to help:- I keep on reminding myself that I need to stop, this is a weakness in me that I can’t work on. I have approached other healers too. All I want is to release this trait which is very painful for me. I have been healed by them time and again but it’s so deep-rooted subconsciously that it takes a toll on me often. I try to define my boundaries and also learning to step back. Being in the healing line often opens doors where my help is needed. As usual, without a blink of an eye, I will go about doing what I am good at. Recently someone had reached out asking me for help or even give them a job at my center. I was unable to help them as I don’t need any assistant within two days I started a money healing/ritual workshop. I asked this person to join and help themself. The answer I got was disheartening to even hear as it looked more like I was selling my workshop which I was not doing. This was an icing for me it took me a couple of days I have put such strong boundaries now that getting my help will not be easy for anyone.
>Importance of commitment:- everything has a price to pay and one should be ready to invest in that for self. Through my journeys of life I have never given a second thought about spending money on myself it’s not only about buying clothes, accessories, or taking time out to meet friends. It’s also about taking time out for self and investing in self for workshops and healing sessions to help one actually heal and move on. Once I saw the benefits and importance I never once cringed nor said I don’t have time. Honestly, I don’t have time, I take time out to do something.
This is the important lesson for me and I see it being so helpful and has brought such tremendous changes within me. Though initially my biggest resistance was my commitment. Today it’s my priority I take time out for myself no matter what or how hectic my schedule is.
This makes me wonder am I right or wrong? Is my ego being nursed subconsciously? Am I acting from the point of being wounded or hurt?
I realized once again it’s my mechanism that I have learnt where automatically I will subconsciously protect my self respect and love. Feeling happy and also realizing that these boundaries is much needed. As each one have their own journey and choices.
One can suggest, guide but the receiver should be ready to listen and learn when that’s not there one should know and understand that they don’t wish to accept your help. Gracefully step back for your sanctity and peace that’s most important than anything else in life.
The beautiful experiences of life become excellent teachers bringing us strong meanings to understand oneself better.
Reach out to Samskara Healing if you have an issue or trouble to let go for guidance, support or a session.
🌺Palash 🌺
Spiritual Healer @samskarahealing
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