INFERIORITY COMPLEX
Though I have addressed this issue, I am still nudged to write about this once again. The inferiority complex is pretty common yet complex with many of us. We are unable to deal with and especially when one gets labeled and tagged with certain names it becomes really difficult to get out of that space.
Why does one even get into the space of feeling inferior?
This is has got to do with social conditioning and the craze we have that we wish to show that we have it all. There is a strong belief which is deep-rooted that we need to know and also make sure the society accepts and acknowledges us.
This can put us in a drive to achieve something which is truly not worth achieving. This craze can either push us or someone we care about into the spot of inferior complexity.
Perceptions play a vital role here as this is what puts tags and labels on people and that can be very disheartening and no one really likes to be labeled or tagged no matter what their weakness is.
One may actually take out their own weakness and bitterness on the others and this can be pretty nasty. Especially if they lash out on a person who is weak and vulnerable that person will naturally go through so much of inner conflicts that they will naturally go into the zone of having an inferiority complex.
Let’s look at the symptoms of inferiority complex:-
- Being around a perfectionist or trying to be a perfectionist. Both have their own pros and cons and one needs to be aware of this. Especially when trying being a perfectionist can become painful and at times we need to let go or accept things as it is. The same applies when around a perfectionist you don’t need to copy or imitate someone.
- Being very sensitive to criticism and trying to justify or deny what’s being stated. Your reactions to criticism is a clear sign to be watchful off and take the required step to be patient. It takes a long time to let go and you hold onto that statement of criticism very grudgingly.
- Reacting out of anger to defend self especially when being a target or joked about. Taking a strong stand and lashing out instead of acting on the situation. Reasons being you are unable to deal with being disrespected and that can be a trigger.
- Finding faults in others and bringing that as a comfort to yourself. This is a way to calm yourself saying you are right which really won’t be of any help.
- Trying to fade into the background is the next one trying to blend away without being noticed. At times the person’s discomfort is pretty visible by others.
- The feel-good factors about yourself will only be there when you feel you are doing better than others.
- You are quick to assume the worst and jump to conclusions about the same.
- It’s difficult for you to accept compliments coming your way. It won’t go in easily as you would often question the intention and why are they complimenting you. If something is actually wrong.
- When being ignored or not spoken to can really be difficult and dealing with that is something you may dislike.
- The self-esteem, confidence will be at a very low level of non-existence.
- Refusing to socialize and want to withdraw and stay aloof from everyone and everything.
- Never happy with anything and also feeling low on energy.
- Experiencing severe bouts of anxiety and depression.
It’s not easy for both the person who is in the state of inferiority complex and also the family or loved ones. As it’s painful to try to bring them out without them getting hurt or trying to let go of the feeling of incompetence.
This can become a big roadblock for one or various reasons and put us through the process of self-tormenting and abuse through the substance. The reasons can vary from
>Physical appearance – as looks count for a lot of people. The skin color, height, weight can become touchy topics leading to the inferiority complex.
>Relationships- repeated failures or due to one’s own weakness unable to communicate can get a person into a bad patch. Unable to have a healthy relationship.
>Lagging in Studies – this is a tricky one with children that can be carried into adult life.
>Incompetence– in work and in life in general due to various reasons or even all put together.
How to help oneself or your loved one out inferiority complex.
>First and foremost they would need to see a healer or a counselor get support and someone to hold space and trust.
>Try to understand who the person feels inferior to and reasons behind it.
>Make then understand that worrying about others has to think or say is of importance to one’s own thoughts or beliefs.
>Teach then the importance of not trying to mirror or copy someone but to bring forth their own identity and true self forward.
>One needs to know that no one is perfect and everyone has some faults or the other it’s about owning up to your own faults and moving on in life.
>Encourage the person to work in the emotions that get stirred up and reasons for feeling that way and trying to address the suppressed emotions.
>Help them work on their insecurities and build on self-esteem and confidence it is much needed.
>They need to understand that failures are okay and one needs to work towards releasing those blocks and fear of failure.
>Owning up and accepting self for who he/ she is very important and much needed to even walk on the path of getting out inferiority complex.
Everyone at one time another feels low, the urge to have the need of assurance that all is well. We all are humans and we need that tad bit of love, recognition, and assurance that all is well. As family instead of labeling our loved ones, we should hold space for them.
They need to know and be able to trust at least one person who can help them out of the state of the inferiority complex. There is always a way out of any situation one gets into. The point and question comes is do you really want to come out of the situation?
Feeling a little low, or not wanted is something everyone experiences, it’s about letting it go and not holding onto it.
The lessons of life should teach us how to experience the moments and turn each every experience into a positive experience.
Get in touch with Samskara Healing incase you feel you need to clarify or get guidance for an issue or for a support session.
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