I HAVE A BAD TEMPER!

Life has its way of showing us the way and also often bringing the truth in front of us by replicating similar situations to us. Temper is one thing which we carry and at times try to deny that we have a temper.

It’s natural that we wish to suppress our shadow part and not acknowledge it as we may feel a little uncomfortable to talk about it or even look at it as an issue. We are ready to have a list of excuses and dish them out as required.

Often we label people with she/ he is short-tempered or has a bad temper. Not once do we think that we are also projecting this on to the other person. They may have a temper but we are also adding fuel to the fire and feeding the required energy with our talks. It can get tricky and difficult for the person who has been labeled.

Now temper comes in reason being the suppressed anger that is deep within us. We carry anger for various reasons and are not ready to look at it or even address it. There could be plenty of inner child issues that are not addressed or looked into.

Each and every one of us has a threshold for certain things in our life and with years of going through the threshold starts to reduce and at the time there is just no threshold.

Is someone to be blamed for this?

Blaming can happen for everything and all kind of situations. The point is do we want to blame or own up to what we have done or reacted to. Owning up takes a lot of will and courage as we are never ready to own up to our reactions or what others may see as a mistake or fault. Normally we may get into the spot of denying or trying to express ourselves as to why we did what we did or else normally you wouldn’t react.

The only person for temper outbursts would be oneself, there is no use of blaming or pointing fingers at others saying they did it or I haven’t done anything at all. Understandable for your outburst of temper there have to be external stimuli but who has given the power for them to trigger you??

It is the person who is looking back at you in your reflection and that’s you… and in other words oneself. When we do go give the power out then we have to be prepared for the repercussions of the same. We can lose our temper easily because we have happily given our power to someone else who is more than happy to press the trigger for you.

The trigger can be with more than one person and can easily become a repetitive style and patterns can be built through these kinds of acts. The only way is to understand where are the triggers and how was it given and try to work on taking it back. Taking it back is your right and you should take it back.

We may have given power for various reasons be it for

1. Acceptance
2. Acknowledgment
3. To feel wanted or loved
4. Lack of confidence
5. Lack of self-esteem/ respect
6. Beliefs and values are imbibed
7. Trying to belong to a group

Now when we do have a temper and understand where the triggers are now let’s see how can we work on them.

Some simple steps which one can follow for mild temper would be:-

1. Understand the simple fact you cannot control everything and everyone. Each person is different and it’s best to accept them for who they are then trying to change them and then losing temper over it.
2. Being intolerant towards a lot of things, your intolerance is your issue so you should work towards it and not project it on to others as it’s not worth it. No one will be ready to tolerate your intolerance as they have enough on their plate already.
3. Pessimism is not something others appreciate especially the ones who wish to be optimistic and more positive in life. So trying to control things through pessimism is not advisable and moreover this can be a super trigger for you.
4. Stress and anxiety which again is within you can be triggered by external stimuli and if you are lacking sleep due to this the temper can be pretty difficult to control. It would be more like a short fuse or something like that.
5. There can be a certain mental illness like bipolar disorder or depression which needs to be looked into and you would need help and that too a professional help for this.
6. Too much of substance abuse can also become triggers for loss of temper. As one will not be able to sustain oneself due to hormonal imbalance too.
7. Trying to hold onto power and when it’s slipping out of your grip and that is healing uncertainties set in.

Well there can be many such reasons the point is

ARE YOU READY TO WORK ON THE ISSUE AND RELEASE IT?

The temper which we lash out is a clear indication of the pain within us.

Every suppressed emotion has a way of showcasing itself so that you acknowledge it.

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