Am I Ready to Face Rejections?
This is one of the biggest fears many hold onto. They can move into a space of getting caught in the drama and unable to move out of the space. No matter what it how prepared one can be, receiving an answer as “No” is never easy for anyone. Especially if the person has gone through a phase of already being rejected or any other kind of trauma.
We often hear phrases like,
“ I am ready and okay if someone rejects me”.
“I can cope with rejection’s easily”.
Rejection is something no matter what we say or how empowered one can be. The impact of receiving a “No” has and will always be felt, even if it is just as a small scratch in your space.
At times, when faced with rejection it’s easy to slip back to old ways. Especially those who have gone through phases of inferior complexity, panic attacks, depression and so on. All it takes one simple aspect of being rejected. The rejection could be for anything.
When the pattern starts to repeat and one starts to keep listening to No’s or having rejections constantly, can easily put one on a roller coaster ride of emotional issues. The thoughts could start to flow from
Why me?
What have I done to receive this?
It always happen to me!
No one loves me!
It can go on and on.
The one fear which some speak about and some who refuse to even acknowledge is the fear of rejection. So when some even refuse to acknowledge this or speak about it how can we we broach the topic. It has to be dealt with keeping the sensitivity in mind.
It also depends on how the person has accepted the rejection.
Sometimes when asked how are you feeling?
The usual answer is “ I am okay”. It would be good to ask them to elaborate on the okay.. what does this person mean. Okay is a beautiful facade or mask to hide behind. Especially when one is not ready to speak about what’s happening.
When asked to elaborate either we will have the person open up and speak a little of what exactly is happening or you may hit a road block. Either ways you would know exactly how to deal with it and what kind of help or assistance is needed. In very rare cases I have heard someone say “I am not feeling good” or “ I am not okay with things”. When these statements come it’s much easier to work with them.
Some simple tips on how to deal with a rejection or help someone who is in this space.
- Acknowledge the pain and grief of being rejected.
- Do not move into a space of blaming yourself or putting yourself in a space of blame game.
- Speak about the feelings and let those to be released without much stress or anxiety.
- Work towards being resilient and not getting caught in the web of fear.
- Seek professional help if need be to overcome this situation or fear.
Being rejected is pretty common, it can happen anywhere and with anyone.
- At home with family, sometimes parents start to show preference to one child ignoring the other for whatever reason.
- School teachers start to favor some children and some are ignored or not paid attention to.
- Friends and peers are very common thing now. Getting rejected in groups for something being said or not said.
- It could be your partner or companion.
- Work space another area for being rejected easily.
Being rejected is common, it’s about how one can be resilient and get back on their feet.
Rejections brings amazing lessons and also teaches one to set boundaries and build on self respect as they move on.
Life has its ways for making one build self respect and self love by learning tough lessons through the process of being rejected.
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Written by
Dr. JayaPalashri
The Spiritual Princess
Shamanism
Reiki Grandmaster
Meditation Facilitator
Samskara Healing