AM I TO HOLD ONTO EVERY RELATIONSHIP THAT COMES MY WAY?
I would like to start this blog, with another question,
Can we actually hold on to relationships!
Would we really want to hold onto every relationship that comes our way, it’s an interesting fact. Don’t we all have this one weakness where we hold onto all the loose strings totally being unaware of the damage that’s being caused by the same. The first step would be starting with putting us through an emotional upheaval with statements like
Why me ?
What did I do?
Do we learn on how to let go or experience our life with handling relationships. None of us now what’s right or wrong we over a period understand and start to work and now how to handle situations and circumstances.
In some cases, we know we are being used or misused but we are just not able to break away or let go of the one string we are holding onto. We keep thinking of statements like,
I am not ready to let go
Why should I let go
Life has been unfair to me
What have I done to deserve this
How can I let go
I have let go yet why am I suffering
I am absolutely okay or I don’t care ( a person in denial)
We can keep on berating ourselves to a list of questions and also allow ourselves to become mean and nasty. Reason being we are in a spot of wounding and not able to accept our facts and truth of life. Moreover we keep reliving the same situations time and again. This could also cause a lot of pain as our brain is unaware of whether it’s happened or not happened.
It would just accept the fact that it’s happening and start to send out the required chemicals and triggers to the body, the body will react to those triggers naturally without giving a second thought.
Some facts one should remember
You cannot always call the shots.
You cannot be heard to every time even if you are right.
The other person has an option to opt out if they wish.
Through healing we cannot manipulate someone to come back in to our life.
Every relationship has a shelf life beyond that there is no purpose or reason.
We can never know when we will part ways with our loved ones.
Every relationship should be valued for what it brings to you.
It’s not about pointing fingers or getting into the blame game.
When we are being negative we get into inner conflicts within ourselves.
These are some pointers which I was nudged to highlight, when I look at them I clearly understand there is so much for even me to understand. We can never say we know it all, there is always a surprise down the road waiting for us.
We cannot hold on or try to manipulate any relationship, as each relationship is there for a reason and season. When lessons have been imparted and we learn certain ways of life through experiences. After which it’s natural for the relationship to come to a grinding halt. This can happen through various ways
>Misunderstandings
>Miscommunications
>Fights
>Passing over to the spirit world
>Manipulation
>Betrayal
Instead of cringing or cribbing look at ways, to accept the lessons and forgive them as they were here just to help you have your lessons of life for your soul evolution to go a higher plane. Once it’s done as they decide to leave, be kind and with compassion wish them well as they move to give someone else their experiences of life. Not to forget the point that even you will be also moving ahead to give someone an lesson of life.
Every relationship adds values and feather to our cap, as we learn so many important facts of life. There is no end to the learnings of life. We only have to aware and understand this simple point.
So tough or mean in laws are just doing their part in helping you learn certain lessons which is needed for you.
It really depends on each person and their own journey what are they seeking and what they need to understand and change within themselves.
When we go through a bad relationship or a bitter time we usually shrivel away and avoid talk about it. At times we may feel the person has been intimidating and we unable to handle it and we move away. There can be various reasons for the same situation.
When fingers get pointed and nasty comments are being passed, be frank and mindful understanding the lessons that have come your way and thank the person for wonderful lessons that they have bought to your doorstep.
Some simple pointers would be,
Trust should be the basic foundation of any relationship and when trust is broken is there a relationship left??
Can we actually take statements at face value or do we actually look deep within to understand
Do I wish to be used as doormat often?
What in me was weak that it has attracted this into my space ?
Am I to just accept whatever is happening?
How sure am I that I want these lessons of life?
These kind of questions can only get answers and clarity when we understand which relationship falls in with soul contracts. Each person comes for a a specific reason and once their part is done they will love no matter what one can say. Some bring in karmic issues and those need to be experienced no matter what we say or refuse to say:
Learn to value and respect every relationship in your life as there is an important lesson being imparted to you.
No one is bad or mean, it’s what we seekers have asked for, to experience our life through learning the lessons.
Reach out to Samskara Healing if you have an issue or trouble to let go for guidance, support or a session.
🌺Palash🌺
Spiritual Healer @samskarahealing
Priestess|Shaman|Karunaki master
Reiki Master|Sacred symbols Master
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