Are we supposed to accept everything our Children say to us?
I am sure, this has got you thinking, is this what life is all about wherein we first listen to our parents and now comes a time our children expect us to listen to them.
Is this something you are facing in your life?
Are you thinking why me ??
What have done to even face this??
Well, you are not alone for sure, that’s one fact which I am sure makes one feel better knowing that being a parent is not an easy job nor a job wherein it is only 9 to 5. Yes, nannies and maids who do take care of our kids but they can just leave or work in a time frame.
Whereas parents are forever worried, anxious, and overthinking for what’s right for my child and what should I be doing.
How can I make him/ her more competent and successful in life??
At times the dreams which have not been fulfilled our projected on children and at times we just are not ready to let them do what they wish to do. So here comes a million-dollar question,
How do I know this is right for her/ him??
Well as a parent we have a gut feeling and also can sense the influences of media especially social media on the kids especially teenagers. It is okay to be loving and trying to let them follow some of their passion and interests.
But when you feel uncomfortable as a parent and insecure it’s time to sit and think.
What is the insecurity about?
Are you scared that your child may not come back to your nest again??
Is it that it’s going against what you have dreamt of your child?
Is there some gap in communication between you and your child ??
These are some kind of some important questions one should ask themselves. As at times, we may be smothering them with our love and protection and not letting them be or even live life. Now there will always be a conflict of interest when the parent’s dreams and child’s dream don’t match.
As a parent, it then becomes our responsibility to sit down and understand weigh the pros and cons before making a decision and trying to understand what is it that my child wants?
In case there is something which is not settling than its best to sit down and have a talk or even go to a counselor to be in the neural path.
Trying to work things out where both the child and parent benefit is very important and a must. Getting into arguments and having constant fights won’t be of any help to work things out.
Before jumping to conclusions or reacting the first points to be working on:-
- Introspect on what’s your dreams and what are your child’s dreams and where is the conflict of interest coming in.
- Take time to think and work things out within yourself and see what are your own weakness about whatever is your child’s dreams.
- Communicate and be frank about your thoughts and opinions about what you are thinking and let the child know that nothing can be decided overnight.
- Check out all the pros and cons even if you know no harm in asking others and also researching and seeing what are the chances even if it’s not looking very positive.
- See what are your child’s core strengths and also whether you can make decisions pertaining to that which may help your child eventually.
There is no use going on a guilt trip or trying to rate yourself as a good parent or a bad parent. Each parent does their best to raise their child with a lot of hopes, dreams, and expectations. When the conflict of interests comes me in you can never be ready to face it.
There is the point of being let down hurt and also worrying about your child’s future. Though Khalil Gibran’s quote:-
“Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself… You may give them your love but not your thoughts, for they have their own thoughts. You may house their bodies but not their souls, For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow…”
This is something a parent will find difficult to accept as we feel our child is part of us and reflect our thoughts and ideology eventually.
Instead of focusing on tomorrow in your child’s life focus on today how can you make it a beautiful memory.
Fearing the future there is no use trying to hold onto the past as both do not belong to us.
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🌺Palash 🌺
Spiritual Healer @samskarahealing
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