Being Assertive!!
Well, is that needed?
Do I need to be assertive?
I can choose to be picky right?
How to be assertive?
Should we be assertive??
Yes, of course, it is needed and being assertive takes you a long way. As when we are being assertive many things fall into place and things happen as per our preferences and desire. Please note I am not talking about trying to manifest things here.
Here what I am talking about is with being assertive we can have a lot of things like
- Boundaries
- Self- Respect
- Being resilient
- Confidence
- Self- Love
- Self- Esteem
All the above would nearly fall in place and get beautifully defined for one and all. Time and again I often stress on the point of being clear and to be assertive to help space and boundaries to be defined and also respected.
Nevertheless, yet we fail and are unable to keep up-to-the reason being that the facts of uncertainties that set in due to being unclear of what we want. When that clarity lowers our mind, it’s natural to be at loss and get easily fooled or being delusional into believing that everything is exactly like what we want.
The basic and the core of defining self is to help build the foundation of being assertive and help have that expressed openly and with clear communication. There is no room for negotiation here when space and boundaries are being defined. So with the help of assertiveness, this can be easily established.
Is being Assertive wrong or mean??
No, it is not if someone perceives you as being selfish or callous with your decision. It’s good to introspect and re-check to know how you feel. Did you do something insensitive or not show any concern to the other person. If your answer is yes, then ofcourse it’s time to re-look at your assertiveness.
Whereas if your answer is No I haven’t been mean or callous I just defined my space and my boundaries. Then it’s okay cause we can’t change the other person’s perception.
Can we ??
No matter what they will choose to perceive it the way they wish to see or want to see.
So being assertive is not a wrong thing or anything on those lines, it’s all about defining yourself and who you truly are. If we cannot accept ourselves well don’t accept anyone else to accept or even respect you. The root cause of all that we face always lies deep within us.
When one tries to make oneself assertive all that one needs to do is stand up confident and calmly and peacefully for oneself or someone else. Be it in the workspace or personal space both areas needs one to be assertive. It is not about showing aggression or anger but expressing the facts without rocking the boat.
We also need to understand that to be assertive is a core communication skill and it has to be developed and worked on. While trying to show our assertiveness also we need to be an active listener and listen to what’s the other person’s opinion and thoughts too.
Tips on how to be assertive:
- Hone decision making skills and use it effectively.
- Be open and frank with your communication with no fear or apprehension.
- Be an active listener and listen to what’s being said to you.
- Be optimistic and at times it’s okay to be ready to be all about being agreeable to disagree with things that make you uncomfortable.
- Staying calm and focused is much needed.
- When faced with conflicts take the problem-solving path to help end the conflict.
- Practice makes man perfect so keep on practicing the art of being assertive.
- Be patient and give time for others to understand what you are saying or to accept the new you being assertive:
- Avoid blame games, keep eye contact when you are trying to make a point.
- Be mindful with your body language and posture and no matter what stay cool.
The art of being assertive starts from you, allow yourself to understand this.
One can only be assertive when you truly accept yourself for who you are.
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