Bullying can this ever be stopped??
Bullying is one thing I guess all of us have faced in our life. There is no way we could have escaped from the clutches of bullying. Though the results weary and some have been broken while some have fought out of it being resilient. Whereas some have gone on to become bigger bullies in life.
No matter what there are no excuses for going the way of coercing someone else just cause we have been coerced. It’s insignificant whether the person was bullied or not. There is an option of still not having to be a bully and assisting another person out of that situation without much hassle.
As what is expected to, trying to create fear or corner a person who is weaker than you is not right. Some people who are really weak and find it difficult to cope with these kind of stressful events. Can have adverse effects and in some worst cases, it can lead them to harm themselves too.
At times as society many become bystanders watching the bully at play and having fun at the expense of what’s been done. It’s as good as giving the bully the right of way instead of stopping him/ her. The chances of trying to help a bully to get back to being calmer or more understanding can be very difficult.
What leads a person to become a bully?
- The person could be have been bullied so much that he/ she has gone on a rebound with resentment.
- The environmental conditions at home are shaky and the person has been constantly been targeted for various issues. So out of frustration he/ she lashes out at weaker people just to release the frustration.
- The feeling of insecurity could be another reason for one to go towards bullying.
- The urge to have power and control on everything around them.
- Being praised by fellow peers about the acts would become rewards and a person can lean more towards such acts.
- The urge to have control and try to get things his/ her way.
- Humiliation is another big one which could lead someone to move towards the path of getting vengeance.
- Certain repeated failures and patterns could also lead a person towards becoming a bully out of pure frustration and resentment.
We can go on digging out myriad reasons for a person moving towards the path of being bully and creating a lot of negativity in the environment. As a person concerned how can we help someone out of being a bully or getting bullied
- Teach the weaker person to be more assertive
- Help the weaker person build their confidence level up.
- Seek a professional help to assist working on this person out of it.
- Allow the person to work on their self- identity, respect, love and esteem.
- They need to be guided to work on their communication skills.
- Help them build a safe circle of friends.
- Teach them the importance of self-nurturing
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- Understand from where the wounding is coming.
- Look at the triggers and see what are the core issues for this to start.
- Encourage the bully to meet a counselor or healer to help him/her out of the state.
- Help the person to work on building a stronger and calmer personality.
- Teach them ways to have self-respect and self-love
- Encourage them to go for some good exercise activity and which helps them release the extra steam out easily.
- Ask them to build new hobbies and do things they love.
- Encourage the bully to meet a counselor or healer to help him/her out of the state.
There is no use labeling a bully and then pushing him/her out of a circle. A bully becomes a bully for certain things that have happened to them. Try to understand that and help this person to come out of that state. Each and everyone of us have the good side and bad side. So it’s important to work on the good side and try to let the bullying part be put to rest.
Instead of labeling a bully and pushing them to a side try to help them out.
A bully to his/her beliefs and that has been going through some upheaval try to heal that to help them come out of it.
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