CAN OUR BELIEFS BE THE REASON OF OUR PROBLEMS ?
Jane lived her life, with beliefs being inculcated into her from childhood, beliefs being told by her grandparents then parents, uncles and aunts. As she grew up she heard different beliefs with friends and even when she got married the beliefs of her spouse were just not matching.
She always dreamed to have a man in her life who would be able to understand her and respect her beliefs. Just like how her grandfather and grandmother shared their ideology and beliefs. She had wished the same and also believed that her dream of that will come true.
Jane had completely lost the entire concept of beliefs. Reason being she never questioned it just accepted what was told and made it her belief too. Was Jane wrong in any way?
No she wasn’t as she believed that the beliefs told to her were the truth of life as it was her loved ones who had shared the beliefs. She grew up being conditioned to it. One belief was never told her that beliefs can change with time and experiences of life.
As this belief was not part of her essential foundation as her first block came up in life as she couldn’t relate to her spouse and she would get annoyed with him. This led her to weave a vicious web of various thoughts and opinions. Like this she started having issues with anyone she met in this new town.
The belief system was totally different and she was grappling to even be accepted amongst them. She had huge mind blocks and had to fight the thoughts that kept coming up. Life was taking twists and turns and she just didn’t like it.
Things were going out of control for her as her acceptance of the situations were not happening. Unhappiness and misery became her
companions. It was giving her sleepless nights and her uncertainties grew to the extent that her spouse started noticing the drastic changes and meanness setting into Jane.
Eventually he sat her down and tried to talk to her and she just wouldn’t open up or speak. He felt maybe she needs to go her parents place and spend sometime with her family maybe she was afraid to say anything in fear of creating discomfort in her husbands home. So he took her the next day and left her in parents home.
Jane was looking different and her wise old grandmother noticed it immediately. Though she didn’t speak anything but allowed her granddaughter to be pampered and loved as she was not there for so long. The wise old woman with ever sharp eyes, kept noticing the changes and lines of unhappiness around her favorite granddaughter’s lips and eyes.
One fine evening as the sun was about to set, Jane was taken by her grandmother to a spot were the view of the sunset was breathtaking. Living in the mountains one has this pleasure to have beautiful views of sunset and sunrises. She was made to sit and watch the skies and notice how birds were returning home and how things were changing from a busy time to going into stillness and rest.
Her grandmother didn’t speak a word just made her sit and watch in silence. As the sunset, she asked her granddaughter what do you think of the sun? Jane was taken by surprise and she smiled saying I love the way no matter what the sun rises and sets and does his duty without allowing anything come in the way.
The wise old woman turned her sharp eyes onto her granddaughter and looked at her and asked her. May I know what’s your problem why can’t you accept your new life and go about your own duties? What has bought so much of unhappiness and sadness I to your life? What about your husband does he love you?
Jane who had been holding on for so long broke down like a floodgate being opened tears rolled down non stop. Her grandmother didn’t say a thing but let her be. As Jane settled down her grandmother made her sit down facing her and asked what’s bothering you. As Jane started to spill the beans of all that she had been bottling up.
The wise woman heard her out, and said my child beliefs change with time and circumstances. As I grew up I had totally different set of beliefs and your grandfather had his set. I found it difficult too, but I used to see how my mother and grandmother would do things and change. I followed suit and kept changing and accepting things in my life.
Beliefs are made with values, life comes forward and shows us certain beliefs are wrong and we have to let go and also change with time. This is something you need to know and understand. Jane you have to respect your husband for who he is and both of you have to accept each other with your own beliefs and then with time certain beliefs will become common.
You build on your beliefs as you build on your relationship work on it my child. Jane was shocked and she realized how with her own hands she had ruined a beautiful marriage and how she had let everyone down cause of her rigid thoughts on her beliefs. She wanted to go back to her husband and apologize for her mistakes. The wise old grandmother smiled with pride seeing how well Jane understood and patted her arm saying you can go tomorrow morning.
Many a times we all are Janes, and we need the one wise woman to come forward to tell us we are wrong with our beliefs and we need to change it. We can actually make our own life a living hell with our beliefs, at times it is best to release the beliefs that don’t sit well with you.
Beliefs change with time and situations, what held good for you today may not be the right belief.
Beliefs are part of you so with experiences and lessons one knows which beliefs should be kept and which to release.
Reach out to Samskara Healing if you have an issue or trouble to let go for guidance, support or a session.
🌺Palash 🌺
Spiritual Healer @samskarahealing
Priestess|Shaman|Light Body Practioner|Meditation Facilitator
