CAN WE ALWAYS ACCEPT INTRUSION INTO OUR SPACE
Well, one may wonder, what is space actually?
What kind of intrusion are we talking about? The basic concept of space can go far and wide. Your family at times becomes your space and at the same time, you may need space from your family. Similarly the same applies to your friends too… They may be part of your space and at times you may need space from them.
Reasons can be many and no one needs to explain or justify as each and every one of us need space and have a right to actually have space as needed. When things go off-hand or some overstep boundaries and comes into your space you may feel uncomfortable and may actually get annoyed which is natural. Especially if you are unable to express or communicate the same for the reason of diplomacy.
At times, we may not know how to show the art of diplomacy and may actually say somethings we don’t want to say or express. This may lead to hurt and disappointment in the relationship. It’s natural to feel that especially when someone intrudes into our space. This her complicated as we may just not be able to understand the limitations of the space. Nor set boundaries that define your space and give you the required respect by acknowledging these facts.
So why do these intrusions happen?
These happen as and when someone is being insensitive towards your space and your boundaries. The path gets twisty and tricky when things happen without your permission or consent.
Do they need your consent?
Yes, it’s as simple as that as in everything there is space and everyone has to learn to respect this fact. These are basic rules and one must be prepared to actually know this and also respect this fact.
Life shows and gives us opportunities time and again for us to actually achieve and also work on these spaces and put a clear definition: unfortunately for various reasons and issues we don’t work on it and keep on procrastinating over these issues.
Once there is an intrusion into our space than it really becomes difficult as we will keep feeding this with a lot of energy with constant bickering and nagging. This, in turn, would become the source of more such intrusions into our space and gradually we see everything fall apart.
Defining and holding onto space is really important and needed. We can make ourselves very clear and be assertive in expressing our thoughts and feelings.
How can we be assertive with setting our spaces?
- Be firm and clear with yourself as to what you really want and what is your space.
- Are you comfortable with disclosing your space?
- What kind of space is space for you? This is an important question to ask oneself.
- At times it’s okay to agree to disagree with certain things.
- Avoid getting on a guilt trip.
- Try to take your decisions being on a neutral platform.
- Work with a positive mindset and be open to feedback on your stance.
- Don’push or go into an aggressive mode.
- Take the problem-solving method to manage your situation.
- Practice assertiveness daily.
Through the art of having diplomacy which is equally important some tips for being diplomatic:-
- Listen and be understanding
- Avoid negative statements and comments
- Be open to saying sorry if need be
- Use little words and be cautious of how you communicate
- Avoid accusations and blame game.
Take time to introspect and work on being more communicative with your thoughts and acts. Everyone has a right to have their own space and time. A be open and frank without any hesitation or discomfort. You do have the right to express and share your thoughts and feelings.
Even if at the moment you feel it’s not right, later on, you can at your own time and pace share your thoughts and be open to even hear from the other person. As it’s equally important to know and respect what and why they did do something they shouldn’t have done.
Space is something everyone needs and it should be respected and acknowledged.
Keeping a balanced boundary helps define space better which would make it easier for others.
Get in touch with Samskara Healing incase you feel you need to clarify or get guidance for an issue or for a support session.
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