Can we ever get over the guilt?
Guilt is built when something or someone does something against their will. There can be an internal conflict and they will still go about doing things thinking that they are right. Only to know it was wrong all the way. The guilt that sets in can be so difficult to accept as after that there are only thoughts like:
- Wish I was not so careless
- I am pretty dumb to believe everyone
- Why couldn’t I use my thoughts
- How can I rectify things
- Am I ready to forgive myself?
- How could someone do this to me?
- I am going to carry this to my grave
As guilt sets in it causes a certain turn of events and realization setting in that life is not about trying to prove a point but being a witness to how things unfold and learn from the lessons. The realization can be very painful especially when you know you have been in the wrong. When it’s late and things can’t be undone the guilt can eat the person up.
When struggling with guilt it’s best not to get into blame games. There is no use of pointing fingers or saying someone is the fault for you being in here. It was your choices and acts that has got you into this state of emotion. No doubt there is always a confusion between guilt and shame. It’s not the same emotion they are two different emotions. Giving us certain unpleasant thoughts and experiences which we may not be prepared to have.
The basic universal law “ What you sow is what you reap” is beautifully seen here. When a choice is taken and there is an inner conflict cause of that choice the next thing to follow is guilt as soon one realizes that he/ she was in the wrong. Life being beautiful reminds us of all the lessons telling us we may need to reconsider our thoughts or acts. But if we are insistent then it’s natural for similar patterns to start forming.
Trying to get out of a web weaved by us cause of our guilt will be a harrowing experience. Added to guilt if a person also has denial it becomes that more difficult to face life and suffering the pain and the memories churning a cauldron of thoughts making our guilt even strong. This could bring bitter taste into one’s life and the memories of bitterness create toxicity into the environment.
Carrying guilt and pain there is no way one can even try to forgive the people around or oneself for going through the pain and suffering which was triggered due to circumstances and situations. One thing is to be known and understood is that no matter what nothing can be undone. Of course, things can be worked out maybe with having the realisation or seeking forgiveness.
Other than that there is nothing one can do, that’s the pivotal point for one as the guilt when not released can start to create chaos in the physical space. The only way to have peace is to have a closure no matter how tough it is and let go of the guilt.
How can one overcome guilt?
- Try and get a birds-eye view of the whole situation before jumping to conclusions on anything.
- Every episode that unfolds in your life has a higher purpose and it’s never for the bad, one needs to know that.
- Look at the lessons and avoid getting into a denial, help yourself to accept the lessons and release what is not needed.
- Seek forgiveness and practice the art of gratitude.
- Avoid getting into the toxicity of the situation and going nasty and bitter there is no benefit with that.
- Be open to express your concerns and thoughts and try to seek professional help be it from healer/counsellor to help you out it.
- It’s good to journal and pen down your lessons and life experiences as these bring us beautiful wisdom which helps our soul evolve.
- Be mindful and make sure these teachings don’t have to be repeated time and again or else they may become patterns as we fail to accept and learn the lessons.
- As you learn your lessons slowly define your space and boundaries and start voicing it out to help others know.
- Avoid self-criticisms be patient and work on healing the spots that need work done on without being harsh or critical.
Guilt is unavoidable at times but it’s all up to oneself on how they deal with the problem and clear things out. Getting into denial or a blame game won’t be of any kind of relevance to the situation. It would be better to openly speak and be frank with thoughts and just move ahead.
Guilt cannot be of any help you rather seek closure and let go of the guilt.
Holding onto guilt for a long time can bring a lot of chaos into one’s space me wise to let go.
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