Can You Control Everything?
That’s something I often hear, or witness. The point is can we really control everything that’s happening around us?
No
Then why make such a fuss and try to call the shots when we know we can’t control the outcomes. So when we know that nothing is in our control, why do we go down the lane of being difficult and trying to keep everyone and everything in ones control.
So what is it to be a control freak?
A person who feels an obsessive need to exercise control over themselves and others and takes command of any situation.
When one starts to do this, at time there maybe no resistance and you may have everything going as per your plan. Eventually one or the other person will step out of the circle and decide to be the one to break the circle or the rules. At a time like that it is obviously very difficult for you to accept or even acknowledge this.
The reason is simple, one can never imagine having everything going out of control or even graciously accepting the same. The biggest issue that comes in is this. When one can never graciously accept or acknowledge when things go bad or not as per plan.
What does one do?
Can one ever be prepared?
No, we can never be prepared as no matter what’s being said or not said. Certain things unfold bringing surprises and also the point of unbelievable situations. This would but naturally put one into a state of denial and trying to reason things out as why it should be in a particular way.
The biggest challenge is accepting the situation and stepping out of it. It’s never easy and also it takes a lot of effort and courage to let go and accept. When you come to the point of acceptance and moving ahead it becomes much easy and all the obstacles and challenges melt away easily without any hiccups.
What are the signs to know if someone is a control freak?
- You often have a tendency to correct people.
- Being judgmental and critical about other people.
- You may not often be team players
- You may not like to share your credit of the success that you have achieved
- Accepting when wrong is very difficult.
- You truly believe that you know what’s best for every situation.
- At times act like a messiah who prevents bad things from happening.
- Holding onto grudges for a long time.
- You always want to win all arguments.
- Being unreasonable with situations and circumstances.
How can one step out of a situation of being in control?
- Know that everything cannot always been controlled.
- Everyone have their thoughts and opinions and you must respect that.
- Be gracious enough to accept when you see things not going as per your plan.
- Step back and accept that it’s good to let go.
- At times it’s good to allow things to go naturally and to have its on course of flow.
- The quicker you acknowledge and accept the easier the way gets.
- Learn to give responsibility and let them have space to falter or make mistakes. As it teaches them also to have confidence to learn and move ahead.
- Be truthful and open about your thoughts and opinions.
- Let things be and don’t try to change them for your own convenience.
Being a control freak can make it very difficult to let go. So it’s good to seek help and also work on this. It would help set boundaries and express the same. From the above points, it can be said that control freaks act in such a way that it ends up frustrating and causing resentment in others. Such individuals operate this way because they feel that they need to keep everything under control in order to achieve their own goals. So, if any of the above-mentioned qualities are exhibited it’s good to work on it.
Life has its way to make sure no one can have a control over anything.
Any kind of control is always a temporary phase and it usually passes with time.
Get in touch with Samskara Healing, if you are looking for a mentor or you need a session of healing and help remove blocks feel free to reach out and book a consultation.
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