Don’t take my kindness as your birthright!
This is something we have all been stating right at one time or the other. There are situations and circumstances that trigger this statement within us. We get so annoyed and upset with certain situations and circumstances where we are just been taken for granted.
Well, this is truly not appreciated nor can it be accepted by anyone. Nevertheless, we get into spots and situations where we feel we are taken for granted and have many issues pertaining to that. It’s a tough spot to be in naturally and we always wish to come out of that zone.
Yet, we are unable to swim out of it?
Any idea why??
That’s cause we have various blocks within our mind. Be it
- What if the person stops talking to me.
- I am scared to get criticized
- I have the phobia of loneliness
- Fear of letting go
- Uncertainties of life
The list can go on and on, the point is
Are ready to make the change?
Yes / No
Those of you who have answered yes, time to take a plunge deep within yourself and understand what’s going wrong and from where is this state cropping up? It could be a deep-seated belief that is making you think that your kindness is being taken for granted. Try to analyse why and look into understanding yourself and your triggers.
Those who feel no, I am unable to make a change and I wish to be this way. Well, that’s okay you can take your time and stay in that state as long as you are okay with it and ready to accept it. But don’t crib or nag about the situation. It’s not worth it, no one is asking you to be the way you are. So since you have chosen that stay with it and accept the lessons and learnings.
Every decision we take has two paths one is a karmic/ chosen or a destined path and another is the untrodden and unknown path its totally up to you which path you choose. There is no one to blame or explain to as it’s always a simple universal law
Cause and effect!
So you pick something you go through and experience through that. It’s the personal decision they wish to weave a vicious web or go about setting them free of all these unwanted thoughts and feelings. While weaving a vicious web, you don’t get into the blame game and pointing fingers.
There is an option of voicing and being assertive about the facts and go you and wish to be treated. So when you choose to be silent and not act on the situation. Stop the blaming and bickering move on and get on with life.
Why would anyone take our kindness as their birthright??
Who is to be blamed??
Of course, without a blink of an eye, it is us. When we give someone the freedom to walk over us and take us for granted, some times it does get to us. The reason being everything has a threshold when things go over that point there is tie annoying factor setting in.
No matter how many times I write about this, the issues are so strong that though one reads through the tips the vicious webs are so strong that we need to first get it into our system to cut through those web’s and free ourselves of those chaotic emotions.
How??
- Understand your level of commitment to the relationship and know where you stand.
- Being assertive is very important to help oneself.
- Introspect into the unfolding of the events and see how you feel and what makes you feel uncomfortable.
- Accept the situation as it is without trying to justify or reason thing out.
- Be reasonable with your thoughts and expectations.
- Know what is your triggers and what’s happening to you when these triggers are activated.
- Be open and frank with communication and don’t hesitate to express your opinions about disagreements.
- Define and make space for boundaries and don’t let it be collapsible.
- Work on your self-respect, confidence and understand what is it that you need as support.
- Lastly, be yourself and look at trusting your instincts and thoughts on how to make decisions.
The choices are, with us do we want to let someone take us for granted.
No one has the right to take you for granted unless you permit them to do so.
When boundaries are defined and communicated about no one can take you for granted or treat you badly.
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🌺Palash 🌺
In Gratitude to Divine
Spiritual Healer
Samskara Healing
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