ENOUGH I CAN’T TAKE THIS ANYMORE!!
How often has this statements been said by us especially in relationships which are failing in and not able to withstand it any longer. Maybe even one sided, it is like only you are putting in the effort or trying mend things and make things work. At times you feel the hurt, pain overwhelming that it is beyond words to express.
Relationships are one which gets bulldozed many a times for various reasons and situations. The closer one gets the more painful it gets that digesting the whole thing would leave one feeling highly acidic or having issues with digestion.
The bitterness can creep about like poison ivy, leaving a very painful taste in our thoughts and words that we speak. There can be pure pain, misery and anxiety with the flow of words. We need to understand this and also allow the person who is reacting this way to calm down before trying express self. Trying to deny, or avoid conversations will be as good as ending the relationship in a bitter way.
Relationships have many branches which spring out of us like a tree that would have many branches , now it is so important that we need our roots to be well grounded like a strong tree that can withstand all the storms and winds. Some branches too over time with nourishments they become strong and withstand the tests of time with heavy winds or thunderstorms. Whereas there are some branches that break off with the first breeze.
Relationships are so much like this, as long as they have been nurtured and taken care off we see them withstanding tests of time. Being faithful and holding on trusting the tree knowing that the there is support one can trust in.
Every relationship that we build on needs to be nurtured and catered to, it’s not easy nor can it be one way traffic. We need to
Give in at times
Let go at certain times
Forgive without conditions
Accept them for who they are
Hold gratitude for them being in your life.
When in amidst all this it’s easy to slip up or get into a zone where everything annoys you. Then it’s time to step out of the space or situation and start off with Introspection to see what’s wrong and what’s troubling you. Ask for space and time saying you need to just breathe and sort out your mind nothing else.
One thing we need to know with a blink of an eye, any relationship can be ended be it.
Siblings
Spouse
Parents
Children
Friends
In-laws
Colleagues
Acquaintances
It’s very easy to break and move away, there may be regret or remorse for way things have panned out for you. No one likes to be in a toxic relationship, it’s natural we look for a way out. Here I am not addressing the toxic relationships but addressing the ones for various reasons could be hitting some tough times.
The basic foundation for any relationship to build on is
Trust
Respect
Communication
Space / boundaries
We initially try to bend or go all out to make ourselves be loved or accepted. This one reason makes us go the extra mile with expectations following in tow like a clingy toddler. When we start nurturing a relationship and keep expectations at bay it becomes easy and one can nurture it the way it’s comfortable.
Instead of reaching a point where we say enough is enough I can’t take it anymore, work on rebuilding your self with your own beliefs and values. Next redefine relationships and the beliefs with which these have been built on. Understand there is another person in the same relationship, that is the person with who you maybe having the conflict.
Check with them, how are they feeling? Do they have similar thoughts like you? It’s worth questioning, as in if you are unhappy or uncomfortable I am sure the other person is equally in the same position. Take your time to first understand and then work on redefining space and how to work on with issue.
At times we take years to build on a relationship and it just takes, a blink of an eye to end it. One of the biggest reasons can be misunderstandings or also our own values and beliefs that can create havoc within us.
At times, we are left hanging in the air when there is no proper closure or you are not ready for for the closure. This could bring in bitterness and awkwardness into the relationship and also accelerate towards a bitter closure.
Nurture a relationship like how one would nurture self… the way you would want someone to treat you is what you need to put into the relationship. Yes this can get debatable as I do that, but I hit a wall of resistance and it is not reciprocated. Then isn’t it time to look deep in and see what’s going wrong?
When nothing is going right in a relationship it’s worth asking yourself, What does this relationship mean to you?
When the traffic is one sided it one way, where you are doing all the communication and hitting a wall of silence. It’s time to think what really you want in that relationship?
Reach out to Samskara Healing if you have an issue or trouble to let go for guidance, support or a session.
🌺Palash 🌺
Spiritual Healer @samskarahealing
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