How difficult it is to accept a NO??
How difficult it is to accept a NO??
It’s easy to read up and speak about how we wish to live. It’s equally easy to follow examples and talk about certain people who graciously accept a no. At the same time when the tables turn and it’s your time to accept a No. Many go through this process of asking why? Or why me?
Have you been able to accept it easily?
What happens to you when you hear a no?
Do you go through various phases of emotions and a chaotic flow of thoughts in your mind?
Does it often put you in a downward spiral of denial and anxiety?
Does the fear of the unknown get overwhelming for you?
Accepting a no is very difficult for you?
If any of this was a yes or even one of them, it’s advisable that you do take a moment to accept and learn to acknowledge this in your life. It can be very difficult which makes it interesting learning for one and all. It’s natural a no in many situations are painful and unacceptable. At the same time accepting them and also being gracious is more important.
Often we tend to sit and talk or discuss within our circle of friends about the various situations and difficulties which we have faced. We also talk about the point where we could have been ignored, spoken in about, or let down. When we are speaking without realizing we may even say it’s difficult to accept a no. I am never going to let this happen, statements like this which in reality is doing exactly what we don’t want to do.
What one fails to understand is that through this process we often put in a lot of energy for things that need no thoughts or energy. At times if someone says no or refuses to do something or acknowledge something, it is okay. You rather let go of things that are of no consequence or use than holding onto them and going through severe pain and suffering. Reliving these memories would only give more energy to things that need no importance at all.
Maybe due to certain things of the past or fear you can never be ready or in a point of acceptance of being refused. I often hear people asking why are you saying no. A simple no can never be easily accepted without asking for further explanation. At the same time if there is and yes it is accepted without an argument or a debate. Though if the yes is for something which you dislike then, of course, that could be curiosity and further questions that is a very rare situation.
The amount of energy and time is put in to fret and be sad about something, the same energy turned towards things that are constructive and creative will take you on a journey of positive outlook and being optimistic about the outcome.
How to graciously accept no
- Make eye contact with the person who is saying no or delivering negative feedback directly. …
- Acknowledge with a simple, “Okay,” or an acknowledgment that it’s been said.
- Ask for the reason if you don’t understand.
- Really listen to what’s being said and remember to breathe.
- Smile while you respond.
- Remember to be polite and courteous.
- Avoid moving towards blame game.
- Be honest and truthful of your thoughts and feelings.
- It would be good to keep the communication open and comfortable.
- Let go of the past and don’t try to put yourself in a spot of “why me?”
Normally when No has to be given or offered a person avoids making a call or coming in contact for a face-to-face conversation. They try to send a simple text or a message saying that they cannot come for whatever the reason may be stated. You rather take a moment to make a call and be ready with an explanation.
When you take out the time to call and explain why you are unable to accept or be there or whatever that needs to be done. It is much easier for the other person or for you to accept that they genuinely mean to do it but are unable to do it for various situations circumstances. This would also keep the relationship going without any bitterness or stress in this relationship.
You rather be gracious about accepting a No from someone rather than trying to justify your reasons. – Palash
It’s good to make a call and be expressive about your comfort or discomfort with the situation. – Palash
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