How do we work on keeping a stable relationship?
Something everyone finds difficult is to find a way to have a stable relationship and work towards keeping it balanced and keep on working on it. A relationship is built over time and it needs to be toiled like working on our garden on regular basis.
The way one would go about de-weeding the garden of unwanted weeds and dry leaves and twigs. Similarly the same has to be done for any relationship it has to be worked on and the unwanted stress and tension should be removed and cleared. This would help clear unwanted baggage and give space for more understanding.
The element of forgiveness has to be there and the facts of giving and taking in a relationship have to be held strong. No one is perfect and this is the other aspect one should have in mind. You make a relationship work, it does not happen by itself.
In other words, it takes two hands to clap, so instead of blaming and cribbing about how things are not going great look at making things work out. But there is a simple ground rule one should follow.
If you are unhappy in your marriage then ask yourself why am I unhappy?
- Could it be the spouse is not showing any interest in you or giving you the required time?
- There has been infidelity in your marriage and no matter what the unfaithfulness remains.
- Continuous fights and arguments are leading you nowhere.
- It’s a pure marriage of convenience and living like strangers under the same roof.
- Being forced into this relationship by elders of the family and there is no spark in the marriage.
- The spouse does meet your expectations and you are unhappy about this.
Well if any of the above are the reasons it’s good to go to a professional ( Healers/ counsellors ) and seek guidance on how to work things out. There is always a point of giving a second chance. But how many chances would one give is totally up to each one’s discretion and choice?
Nevertheless, if someone is looking at reworking and making things to work out the entire ideology will change and bring a different perception to the situation through the help of a professional this can be sorted out and things can be reworked. The choices are always in your hands you need to decide what is it that you want.
Breaking a relationship is very easy, but working on it and trying to make a healthy relationship is difficult and needs a lot of work to keep it sustainable through all the storms of life.
How to keep the spark and keep a relationship healthy?
- Understand your likes and dislikes and also your partner’s likes and dislikes. That’s important to help you know how to accept him/her for who they are without cribbing.
- There is no room for negotiations and blind threats. A relationship to be built on trust and confidence. Of course, there is give and take in a relationship but one needs to respect that.
- Keeping the foundation of interpersonal relationships is much needed to have a healthy relationship and accept the other person in your space.
- The initial year’s there can be a lot of surprises and give and take as it takes time to get to know each other.
- Avoid hiding facts, be truthful to self as well as the other. If there is a drift happening time to sit back and introspect and work things out.
- Boundaries should be set and space must be given to each other to avoid unwanted fights and arguments which could weaken the relationship as time passes.
- Be it the man is the woman needs to know and respect the fact that the other person has come into your life and give that person space and time and make an effort to get to know each other well.
- When certain patterns are repeating time and again it’s good to check as to why and what are the triggers for these patterns to be repeating.
- Communication is much needed and look at ways to be more expressive and frank with each other.
- Take time out and spend that quality time and make the most of it. At times it’s okay to forgive and accept your partner for who he/she is then trying to ruin the relationship cause of your ego trip.
The chaos of technology has got so much confusion and stress into all relationships that its easy to nag and drift away from each other. The myriad dating apps which are only adding fuel to the fire increasing the number of infidelity cases.
Before jumping into any kind of commitment try to get know what exactly you want out of it. Be clear and conscious of what you choose and be grounded with your decision without regrets. Many relationships fail due to the lack of trust and expectations are way high which when not met can lead to disappointments and heartbreaks.
It takes years to build a strong and steady and relationship and just one issue of trust can break the relationship.
Relationships should be built on strong foundations to withstand storms and chaos that comes in.
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