HOW DOES ONE DEAL WITH A POINT WHERE THEY HAVE BEEN IGNORED?
This is tricky and I am sure some of us have been in situations where we know for sure that we are being ignored or let down. It could be a feeling of what has happened suddenly for this kind of rough reaction?
The emotions which would play in our mind would be like a kaleidoscope bringing forth images of what’s in it. Similarly, our mind will start the display of myriad thoughts which would trigger the onset of emotions and the ball would be set rolling.
No matter how many blogs are written and we read many self-help books we are really never ready or open to being treated in a certain manner. This can bring about major issues or discomfort within us as we are not ready for what’s about to unfold. Ego can come and along with that the point of nursing the ego will also be of priority.
Now when something like that happens how can one allow themselves to move through this rough patch?
Do we make peace or pick our battles?
Or
Should we just go with the thought of letting it be!
Yes, it does get confusing and at times irritating to be pushed or ignored. Especially if at one point there was the fact of being close friends or a close relationship. What is the first thing that one experiences it’s the pain? The pain can be as good as a knife taken and stabbed in and piercing pain which actually brings about the next thought.
What have I done wrong?
The natural thing is to blame or question ourselves without giving a second look at whether we are right or wrong. We just blindly question ourselves as to what have I done wrong to even experience this.
Now the million dollar question comes!
Do you want to fight this battle or walk away?
Fighting it what can it give you, will you be happy with the outcome?? or do you wish to actually just move silently knowing this is the point to know it’s time to move on to avoid being hurt or let down.
No doubt, a million thoughts of good memories will come into your mind but is it going to be of any value to you now, especially when the other person has decided to dump you like hotcakes and move on and ignore you. It’s painful no doubt, but here let me point at one thing one needs to look at the beautiful lessons that have come in with this experience.
Never hold onto expectations we never know what to expect.
Uncertainties in life are real and we need to face it.
Relationships are for a season and reason that’s about it.
The same lessons can get repeated as we need to learn our lessons or until we accept our lessons.
It helps one to define and build boundaries
One can learn the importance of letting go
Acceptance and respecting what’s coming our way.
Trying to introspect as to what wrong you have done is really not worth it. As you may have actually not got the right answers.
Yes, one now has to decide what to do, confront, or let Cold War continue and just move away without letting it affect you. There can be many thoughts in your mind but would you wish to stay in that spot or let go.
Steps to move on
>Accept the situation without fussing about it. As fussing won’t get you anything back.
>Understand where you stand in the situation and would you want to wait or move.
>Would you wish to leave your door open or close it, this would depend on what you are expecting from this relationship.
>Life is not about the blame game, so no use blaming the other person about the situation you are in.
>There can be various reasons why certain things happen to us. So decide what would you wish to do now.
>At times we may actually have been in a tough situation and the other person may have been hurt misjudging your intent.
>If you wish to communicate openly what you feel there is no harm in expressing oneself.
>Be open for the finger to be pointed and don’t deny if there has been a lapse in the relationship cause of you.
>Accept a no gracefully no matter how much it hurts.
Life is all about ups and downs, certain paths we have company and certain paths it’s lonely and treacherous. We have a choice in every junction as to whether choose path A or path B.
We can’t really change it or even skip it as choices has to be made or situation circumstances makes us choose our paths with no choice given.
When we do get into the situation where you feel you are being cut out or ignored it’s about time to know for your own good and peace it’s best to walk away. If you are meant to meet there will be paths crossing again when the time is right.
But many relationships have a short shelf life and one really needs to understand that and move about your life as nothing is permanent. All the fuss we do at the end of our journey to exit this plane we have to travel alone with no one with us.
No use being revengeful or holding a grudge as it’s going to bring about bitterness and sourness to you and not anyone else. We need to know that if you are ignored then accept the fact that you are ignored and hold your self-respect and move on.
There is no use holding on to sour or bitter thoughts about being ignored or left out as it creates toxins in you.
Our thoughts become reflections of acts that be mindful especially if you are hurt or upset.
Reach out to Samskara Healing if you have an issue or trouble to let go for guidance, support, or a session.
🌺Palash 🌺
Spiritual Healer @samskarahealing
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