HOW DOES THE HEART GROW FONDER?
This is something that always makes me wonder or at times think. Why is it only when a person is not around we care for them or want to show we care for them?
When they are around other than cribbing and showing all the faults and pain we never are grateful for the little things of positivity that comes along with them. The anger, frustration that one carries is really of no help other than seething with anger and projecting it on to the people around us.
Now that person may carry anger, or hatred may be at times frustrating too though the other person is not around for whatever reason ( it’s not just about death, they may have gone for a long break ). So now that they are not around there is a sudden vacuum in our gut that we suddenly slip into a strong denial mode and guilt trip.
Maybe thinking I shouldn’t have been this mean. I am sure they have learned their lessons now. Through this, we start missing them, and suddenly what happened to be hatred, anger turns towards love and we start missing them dearly and wish they were with us at the very moment.
Now if the person has just gone for a break not to worry he/ she will be back soon and then look at yourself is your heart still fond of them or the minute they come your triggers start all over again with picking on all the wrong things. Life is not about trying to change someone for our likes but accepting them for who they are.
What if the person is no more/ crossed over?
Then no matter how much your heart grows fond of them they are not going to come back. But the ones around who saw you being angry or treating the person badly will surely be thinking
The question is when a person had been around we are not able to forgive them or accept them.
Why do we do the same after they are gone?
Is it the guilt within us, or a point of feeling that it’s over now, and since there is no more of that person you release the anger.!!
This is not a blame game or finger-pointing blog, it makes one understand how human psychology works and how we fail to know and understand this behavior. The ones witnessing are the ones who normally will be puzzled or confused as to what’s happening and what are they missing?
A normal statement or a question when one witness this kind of behavior is
What’s the use now ?
The person who carried the anger or any other emotions could be in a zone to let go. Instead of asking such questions that could put the person through a guilt trip. Allow them to open themselves for receiving you into their spaces knowing that they can trust you and that you are holding space for them.
By doing this we are allowing the person to release all the suppressed emotions and work towards working on the weak points. As I always state being frank and being truthful will make the person speak openly and start to let go as and when ready.
It’s natural for us as a bystander to comment or even criticize our own thoughts and perceptions of life. Not once will one even think what the person is going through or how pained they are? A person who is carrying anger or hatred has their own reason. It gets complicated when we are unable to understand this.
This is where the first step to failure comes as the blame game and guilt trip can take one through such harrowing experiences. In the process, one may lose their true identity and inner peace completely.
Those who are facing or even experiencing it as witnesses here are some simple tips on how to manage.
>Be patient and understand that the two who are having their differences and issues need to fight their battle by themselves and we as outsiders should not be getting involved as it’s their journey of life and they need such tough experiences as it’s the soul wish.
>Let the other person realize it’s never too late learnings will only happen when the person is ready to receive the understanding of the learnings
Hold space without being a critic or judgmental. The reason being we really don’t know what’s right or wrong as there is no such statement as wrong everything happens for a reason.
>Be a good listener and guide if need be but only speak when need be. It’s good to be a witness and only comment when asked for your opinion or thought.
>Avoid blame game or accusations as it is really not going to get anything back or set right.
>Assist them with a healer or a coach to help heal and release their wounds and patterns completely.
When five fingers in a hand have no uniformity why do we try to bring that into our relationships?
Reach out to Samskara Healing if you have an issue or trouble to let go for guidance, support or a session.
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