HOW UPSET CAN ONE BE?
I am really upset
I am very upset
The above two statements are often heard or stated by us. When we put this on a scale to measure where zero is nothing but ten is really upset. Normally many of us would be at a 9 or 10. As we do get very upset and with time this can become frequent.
What can the triggers be??
The trigger can be anything and everything ranging from personal issues, to family treating you like you are non existent. You are just trashed around like there is nothing that you need to know of, or discussed with.
It naturally hurts a person, especially when treated like you are oblivious to them can be very painful. When we try to reach out, try to say hello we are here you can’t walk through us or act like I am non existent. Inspite of that when you are taken for granted for and your opinion is of no consequence to them.
Does it hurt ?
Of course it does hurt!
We are humans with emotions, when animals and plants too have emotions and can get hurt and pain so what makes us different. The only thing is we humans have a golden opportunity to communicate our thoughts with words. While other living things communicate in silence.
When one is upset, it’s natural but to go through a range emotions ranging from sadness, anger, hates to many more. If these issues get addressed good for us. The way we normally handle it is to ignore the emotions or not talk about it.
A simple and easy step even if you can’t talk to someone write it in your journal.
“I am Upset”.
This is the first step to even acknowledge the fact that you are upset. Through that you can look at the next step
“ Why are you upset?”
Write or express the situation that has got you into the mood.
“ What was the trigger if any ?”
Write or express that too.
Like this keep asking yourself and addressing the issue from your system. By holding onto this will only give you
>Misery
>Pain
>Suffering
>Many more of such emotions leaving us feeling helpless and at times lonely or unwanted.
Can we deal with such feelings?
No!!!
We are conditioned to being social animals, we need love, nurturing, acknowledgement, appreciation, respect and so on. When taken for granted or tested with indifference maybe initially we may try to hold on or try let things go by suppressing our emotions.
Eventually we will reach a boiling point, or the threshold of our patience and then it’s a natural things we flip. We are going the downward trend with a myriad of emotions that is spinning to fast that we are unable to deal with reality.
This is when we need to know okay, my life is topsy turvy and I need to know seek help and sort this out. We all need help it’s natural and needed, some may just be in denial trying to put on a strong face. We don’t need to show we are capable of being strong like this. We can also understand and know it’s okay to feel the emotions we are feeling and that it is not our weakness for sure.
Is it okay to be upset?
Is it normal to be upset?
Yes to both of the question, it is okay to be upset and also it absolutely normal to be upset. How we deal with the issue/ situation is what is important here. By carrying the reason and making ourselves uncomfortable and weak with the amount of baggage we carry is of no consequence to us other then creating disturbances and ripples which is actually not required.
How can we deal with ourselves when upset?
>Step out of the space or situation, incase if you are unable to step out of the space. In your mind step out to a more comfortable space.
>Breathe the most important and essential aspect for us. Take deep breaths of fresh air of possible it helps clear your mind and also the system in case the feeling/emotion has trickled down to the physical body.
>Take time to understand why you are upset and as mentioned earlier try the exercise to help sort your mind.
>We don’t need to react immediately, so don’t jump and use harsh words or say things which you can regret later.
>Take time to introspect and see what’s right or wrong and how to progress. At times we may be completely in the wrong.
>Without proper facts never blame someone of something that’s happened to you. The other person may actually have no role to play there could be a simple misunderstanding.
>Before walking out for good think, check and see if that’s what you want, and only if you are 100%sure then it is worth it.
>Instead of sulking and letting the molehill become a mountain it would be better to act on the same.
At times when we know are being upset is only effecting us then it’s worth to think is it really needed.
Do I need to be upset and bring in chaos into my life?
Being upset is normal, the reason of being upset is important. If the other person doesn’t really care how you feel. You are wasting your life by being upset. You rather let go accept and move on happily. Knowing you have chosen what is right like for example happiness or peace.
No one in this world is worth being upset for, as each one has their own journey. Turn the being upset to being happy or forgiveness.
Forgiveness is way better and lighter to move on with then holding onto things that upset us.
Reach out to Samskara Healing if you have an issue or trouble to let go for guidance, support or a session.
🌺Palash🌺
Spiritual Healer @samskarahealing
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