I Just Can’t Let go!!
This is something often we tell ourselves and others. No matter how many blogs I read I am just not able to let go of what’s been done to me. Even though I am working on myself I can’t bring myself to forgive those who have
⚜️Hurt us
⚜️Backstabbed us
⚜️Betrayed us
⚜️Cheated us
⚜️Humiliated us
⚜️Spoken ill about us
How can I ever forgive someone who has done any of the above-stated act to me?
It’s easier said than done for sure, especially when you are raw with the wounding and pain. As long as we are living in the past and not moving into the present or the future it would only be inflicting pain and as we go on reliving the same situation in our mind time and again one can never be able to move on.
Moving on will only be possible if we make peace with the situation and work towards helping oneself to work on releasing the baggage that’s being carried within us. By cringing and clinging to the past the suffering there is no way one can move on.
Forgiveness is much-needed that too when we are ready to accept the fact that something like this has happened and accept the lessons that have come our way. Through the acceptance of the lessons that have come to us only we are ready to understand the lessons and have gratitude in life for these beautiful lessons, we will be able to forgive and move on.
One important point here is
“ You’re not forgiving cause they deserve it but for your release from the situation”’
The pain and humiliation can be very painful and difficult to face and let go. This is understandable and one should only do it when completely ready to let go and move on. The longer we hold on the longer it takes to let go as we keep reliving the same situation and feeding the energy with more energy through our thoughts and acts.
This would start giving that situation a lot of power and the discord between you and the other person will keep increasing and it reaches a point beyond repair. By forgiving a person we are clearing our energy field and releasing us of that state of unhappiness and pain.
How can we forgive?
- Step out of the situation and see what exactly happened and how you got yourself in the crux of this whole unfolding episode. Try to be neutral and see the bigger picture of what exactly happened.
- Don’t get caught with the blame games or think about who is right or wrong. Not get into judgmental statements about the same.
- Seek support but someone neutral and not someone who is going to be biased or just support you to hold onto the opinions and not let go.
- Take your time to introspect and see what’s right or wrong and how are you going to move on without any questions or hiccups.
- Write down the pros and cons, make a list and be patient and don’t get caught in the drama, and yes I mean to write and not talk or discuss.
- After which weigh the pros and cons seeing what’s in it for you whether to let go or hold onto it and how you wish to move ahead.
- Take time to stay by being mindful of the various emotions that would play up and just allow yourself to go with the flow and not get caught in any of the emotions.
- When you have calmed down and ready understand how would you wish to release the baggage and work on forgiveness. There are many tools available all one needs to do is pick a tool that is comfortable and easy.
- Inculcate a daily forgiveness and gratitude prayer and practice it from a point of pure unconditional love.
- Expectations can lead to more pain, so don’t allow that to come up and create hurdles as you are working on forgiveness.
- No one is perfect and keeping that in mind and also knowing that and being sensitive to the fact that everyone can trample over when they see our vulnerability or weakness. Go easy on self as well as the others.
- You have the free will that gives you an option to work on something or not work on something. Be rightful and mindful on this point.
- When forgiving detach yourself and work from seeing the bigger picture though it is not easy that’s the best way to work on it. Allowing yourself to also understand why someone has behaved in a particular way.
- Lastly, learn to just go with the flow and accept things as it comes instead of resisting or creating an unwanted whirlpool of emotional outbursts.
Decisions taken in anger or frustration can lead nowhere it’s always good to be grounded and mindful before taking a decision. Don’t get caught in the story or drama step out of it and see the bigger picture and work from the point of what your soul desires. The soul never tears for tangible things it yearns for intangible things and loves to witness and experience allow that to be felt and be mindful about it.
Forgiveness is an art which must be inculcated into our daily life and pray or forgiveness to travel light.
Forgiving someone doesn’t show you as weak or guilty but shows you as a grounded and level headed person.
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