IMPORTANCE OF A BOUNDARY!!
This is an aspect that each and every one of us should remember and work on is the importance of having boundaries and defining them as per our life’s experiences and beliefs. Boundaries can be changed time and again, what may be comfortable for today can be difficult for you for tomorrow.
When we evaluate and understand the importance it would be better to work on setting boundaries as per our comfort zone. While setting boundaries please only take your perceptions into account and not anyone else’s as they won’t match.
As I stated earlier no two perceptions are the same and beliefs are different between two individuals. Allow yourself to understand this and work on setting or placing the required boundaries. Be assertive and also evaluate the pros and cons and start working on the boundaries.
How to set boundaries?
- Define your space and area first as an initial step for defining boundaries.
- Evaluate the situation and circumstances before hand and understand the importance.
- Introspect into what are your priorities and how do you wish to categorize them.
- Put the interpersonal skills into use and accordingly set the boundaries.
- Remember to also keep the other space in mind when setting boundaries and don’t let it get mixed up.
- When you are comfortable you can express your thoughts about your boundaries to the concerned person.
- Setting boundaries should not take you onto a guilt trip and know that you are doing this to keep a healthy relationship.
- You don’t need to justify yourself for the need of putting the boundaries.
Setting boundaries should be done with
- Trust
- Respect
- Love
- Forgiveness
- Acceptance
- Gratitude
- Confidence
Now when I keep saying setting boundaries and defining space what exactly are you going to be doing?
- Be very clear if you’re comfortable with the topics of interest and areas of discussion and the ones you wish to omit for whatever reason.
- Learn to understand and express your thoughts and opinions openly.
- In each topic for each person, you can be very specific of how much you let them in.
- There is no room for negotiations or trying to compromise.
- We should learn the art of need to know basis, not that everyone needs to know everything.
While understanding who we wish to have in our space and how much of them are you ready to accept is much needed and kept in your mind as you go about working on these areas. Areas which are your weak points and weakness definitely needs boundaries and strong ones to help you work and set things right for your own self-growth.
In the process of setting boundaries there can be a lot
Discomfort for you and others
Communication lapse
Certain mistakes in analyzing situations
Failures while setting boundaries
Insecurities may flare-up
Certain relationships which were weak may break off
Chances of being picked on and criticism may flow
The point to remember is that all this is pure indications that you are on the path of discovering the spaces of your comfort and setting boundaries. Weak relationships will tend to break away and sometimes certain unhealthy relationships become stronger and healthier with defining the boundaries.
The journey is ours if we wish to keep living in the past and go on carrying the baggage of all the memories which stir pain. Then you are choosing to not accept or forgive in this case it would be difficult to set boundaries to cause every time the old memories get triggered it will get you into the same spot.
Whereas if we are in the process of setting ourselves to be more forgiving, letting go and moving ahead the process of setting boundaries and protecting one’s own interest will be valuable and also felt by others.
On the path of our life journey, one goes through various paths of experiences.
Boundaries in a relationship defines spaces and also gives a balance to the relationship.
Read this blog also: What is boundaries? Do I need them?
Reach out to Samskara Healing if you have an issue or trouble to let go for guidance, support or a session.
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