In the process of trying to sort out our problems, do we create more problems for ourselves?
Problems is part of us, they bring amazing lessons to us. The tougher the situation, be assured the tougher the lesson is. It maybe be equally tough to process it and absorb it.
Is there anyone who doesn’t have any kind of problems at the moment?
Yes/ no/ maybe…,,
What did you choose?
If the answer is no or maybe, please sit to think and rethink….
What kind of thoughts are you holding onto?
Allow yourself to be realigned with the universal consciousness. It is important to be in sync or else it’s easy to feel left out. Maybe getting into spot of not understanding what’s happening around us.
Those of you who chose Yes, Bravo….. that’s Ofcourse the fact. Each and everyone of us have situations and circumstances which can be perceived as a problem.
Now let’s bring our focus onto ‘Problems’.
What is a problem?
A matter or situation regarded as unwelcome or harmful and needing to be dealt with and to overcome. This is what we all know and understand.
I would like to add one more point to this and that’s one’s perception. When you believe something is wrong or there is a problem. You have it staring at you, and bringing in enough more triggers for stress, anxiety, anger, fear and so on.
At the same time, when you see your problems as just a situation or circumstance which is not going as per what you want. You will have the right frame of mind to set things right and also work things out without falling into the whirlpool of your churning emotions.
Sometimes many have a normal pattern of making mountains out of a mole hill. So instead of sitting and brooding over what’s gone wrong and labeling it as problem. Be more mindful to just keep yourself grounded and try to work your way around it or out of it. The key point here is to have the right though process and also the right attitude.
When one holds onto the right thoughts, it’s easy to be in a state of mind where you will start seeing and perceiving things in the rightful manner. Here I am thinking of the umpteen number of times my teacher in a psychology class, made us see and understand how important our perceptions are. No two individuals have the same perception for sure.
To put it in a simple way: One may perceive it as a huge road block, at the same time another may see it as a beautiful opportunity to make some more important contacts or opportunities.
Now, this makes it easy for us to understand whether you want to perceive the situations as a problem or a just a situation which needs to be dealt with. This way, your thoughts process will put you in a space of decision making and help you overcome your issues with various strategies and ideas.
Normally what one does is instead of creating a solution. One may start doing things out of desperation and creating more problems or even more tougher situations for oneself. To swim out of the situation, one needs solutions but not quick fix or anything that may actually bring you out of frying pan and straight into the fire.
Many times, out of fear, desperation I have noticed many trying dig from one side to close the pit the other side. Not realizing that in the process you have dug a pit the other side too. So how does one deal with something like this?
- Focus on the solutions and not the problem.
- Stop repeating and living the story you have put yourself into. Try to rewrite your story.
- Try to simplify things so that it can be dealt with.
- Try to make a list of all the possible solutions.
- Start to be creative with your thinking, and think out of the box at times.
- Prioritize your plan and work.
- Do not sit in the space of blame game.
- Trying to move into the space of denial will be of no help.
- Remember to try to use various tools and techniques
- Discuss it with those you feel will be able to help you.
Try different approaches. It’s okay if some don’t work out. The tougher the lessons the better is the learning, making us evolve at a soul level. Remember everything has a way out and try to work your situation out. If one has to summarize:
5-steps to Problem Solving
- Define the problem.
- Gather information.
- Generate possible solutions.
- Evaluate ideas and then choose one.
- Evaluate.
Sitting with the problems and spirally in the web of victimization would lead you no where. Step out if the situation and work on things.
Problems as we all call it, brings beautiful lessons. Accept the learnings from it and see how to release or work on it.
Possibilities are plenty, one will only understand it when you can step out of the situation to focus on what to do next.
Getting caught in the the whirlwind of emotions, will really be of no use. Trying to be grounded while dealing with situations is a good way to handle things.
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Written by
Dr. JayaPalashri
The Spiritual Princess
Shamanism
Reiki Grandmaster
Meditation Facilitator
Samskara Healing