IS DOING GOOD A BAD THING??
I am curious to know about this statement, how many of you read it and re-read stating wait, this makes sense it so resonates with me. Yes of course it does, each one of us at one time or the other have tried to do something good and it has backfired. So is
“ DOING GOOD A BAD THING”?
Some have learnt lessons and moved on without trying to do something like that again. While there are some who haven’t learnt the lessons and repeat the same things time and again. Then get hurt, curl up lick wounds and back to doing the same mistakes again. Reasons being lessons have not been learnt and the same or similar issues crop up and can trigger us with similar reactions and statements time and again.
This can get complex or confusing as one could get into a dilemma about whether they should be good or not. Again we have enough and more moral stories that show we should be responsible individuals and have morals with everything that has been done. It’s not about being good, we can be good also by
just holding space
help the other person set boundaries
being a sounding board
help them
make them journal
let them take the decision
Though for moral is the last thing on the plate, while for some it is everything. Each person has their own beliefs being inculcated with the perception of life. Should one be blamed or labeled cause of this?
ABSOLUTELY NOT
We need to know each one have their own journey and experiences and we should refrain from jumping onto everyone’s journey and trying to make it our own experiences. This is were it usually backfires. No matter how good your intentions are we should know when to step in and when not to.
Now the natural question would be WHY?
Well, it’s their choice and path we can not interfere if they wish to go through experiences for maybe their souls learning how can you step in or try to change their learning. That’s when the issues go out of control. Though your intentions are to do something good it can turn out to be a bad thing not for them for you.
As your belief can come in the way which would further lead to other beliefs to get entwined and perceptions start pouring out which can trigger various erratic reactions within you. Maybe you think,
the other person is upset or angry
Maybe they didn’t want me
Was I wrong in saying the truth
I was only trying to help
My intentions were pure
Why am I always being pulled
Our mind can take us through a whirlwind of emotions so that’s when we need to know and Introspect and also learn lessons and thank the experiences and step out of the space.
For eg:- A hypothetical situation
If a group of friends have some misunderstandings and there is a big fallout. If we try to get in between trying to be the peacemaker. The whole thing could backfire or we can be blamed for something we haven’t even done. The intent may be pure or good, but when we step in with no actual purpose we can bring trouble onto ourselves. Maybe each one have various lessons to be learned. So when we try to step in we maybe diluting the higher purpose of the collective consciousness there.
Another such common situation is you trying to help someone who is in trouble. When one comes out the way to help the least one expects is for acknowledgment or a gratitude. When this is not given it can lead to disappointment or hurt. One more thing we get questions like is it worth being nice to others if we are going to be blamed or labeled for the issue they are in. Why am I even trying to help or be good?
Being good is a natural instinct as we would love to be caring and sharing going out of our way to help people we love or care for the point arises when our help is actually not required but just need a shoulder or a pillar to rely on. One needs to be sensitive and understanding about these things before stepping in to being nice or helpful.
We can be good by being a strong pillar or support and being there for them when needed without talking, helping or guiding. We are just there for when they need they can reach out seek help or just voice their thoughts on the decisions as they move ahead in doing what they wish to do.
When we understand it’s not about being good or bad. It’s only that one needs to know when to be of help and when to step out and not be part of it. At times our own discomfort and pain can lead to such things. We are unable to be still and wish to say something or react to the issue.
That’s when you need to ask yourself as to what’s making you uncomfortable.
- The situation
- The person
- The cause
- Do you wish to drive a point in?
You need to keep asking for clarity within you. One needs to know and understand self.
For eg:- I get unsettled and want to bring about Justice or peace. This is my belief which can cause a lot of discomfort and may nudge me say things or do things which I may regret later. Not that I meant harm or did harm. It’s just that I am trying to nurse my belief in the bargain, I need to ask myself
“ AM I OVERSTEPPING MY BOUNDARIES”.
If I see it as yes then it’s time to take a back step and see what needs to be done. Am I doing something out of turn? Yes ofcourse!!
We need to first understand no one is really interested in your opinions or thoughts. The fact is no perceptions are the same. What one perceives as threat another may see it as a hobby or something fun. So by getting your own beliefs in front there is no use stating
“ IS DOING GOOD A BAD THING “?
Each person have their own path and journey, so it’s not about good or bad nor can we stop them doing what they wish to do.
You maybe right with your thoughts, but the other person is equally right with their actions as it’s triggered by their thoughts.
Doing good is not a bad thing, but doing it out of turn can cause havoc for you as it may get rejected which can hurt you.
Reach out to Samskara Healing if you have an issue or trouble to let go for guidance, support or a session.
🌺Palash 🌺
Spiritual Healer @samskarahealing
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