IS FORGIVENESS ACCEPTED?
Forgiveness isn’t this a a tough thing for anyone of us to do. There are many stories, many exercises, techniques for one to forgive. Do we really take the step to forgive? If yes does it really clear our space or do we keep visiting the situation often. We can get caught with the I / ego and just not move. Keep spiraling in bitterness and no matter what give a cold shoulder, cut all communication.
My question is where can this lead to??
Will you be happy??
Is this actually what you want ??
What could the reasons be?
Is it our own EGO or something else which we are not aware about. A common phrase we have all heard is forgive and forget. This is not easy for anyone and here comes the biggest issues for us. Forgiving is one thing and then saying forget it is very difficult.
Sometimes, disagreements and differences happen. It’s natural as no two individual have a similar mindset. It’s about accepting each other, if need be forgive, accept with grace and move on without creating unwanted ripples for yourself. Just cause someone disagrees or says no is not being mean or bad. Respect them for who they are.
At times we say I forgive you for whatever has transpired between us and then at very opportunity the same story is relived over and over. Now take a moment and think, with us going on reliving the memory and allowing the same emotions to come up and we experience the physical symptoms too. Our brain will really not now if we are actually facing it or not so the required emotions flare up, in turn the physical body reacts with the same flow.
To forgive we have to be prepared to let go, only when you can let go, can the flow of forgiveness happen. One may not be able to forget certain things, but that is not to be given importance. Forgiveness is to be given only when you are prepared to forgive and accept and move on. Incase you get caught in the cycle of reliving the story it’s really not forgiveness.
I like to put a strong defined line here between forgetting and forgiveness. These are entirely two different things, so when we forgive, please note no one is asking you to forget. That’s your choice and no one else’s would you like to forget it or not. The forgiveness can only happen when you decide enough is enough I am going to let this go.
Some facts about forgiveness
By forgiving a person you are not accepting that it is okay or not okay. You are accepting the lessons that have come your way and moving on for your own good.
The forgiveness has to be from a point of I want to forgive then I have to forgive. When you will to do something it actually happens.
Once you take the step to forgive just let go of the story and avoid talking about it time and again.
Take in the learnings from the situation and accept the truth of whatever happened and just be in the spot to forgive and move on for your own inner peace and happiness.
By forgiving a person we don’t get to become smaller or vulnerable. We are doing it with the choice of our happiness in mind.
Forgiveness can only happen when you know there is nothing to be benefitted with holding onto the past and also sweet revenge has its own repercussions.
We need to know it’s not about proving someone right or wrong, it’s about just letting things go.
One of the first step to have a balance between mind, body and soul is forgiveness to bring in harmony within yourself.
Through forgiveness we also clear the stress and negativity around that which is troubling us.
The problem with us we carry hurt, pain, anger and many such emotions and are just not ready to accept or let it go. We keep on visiting the spot of wounding and reliving the whole drama. When this continues we are never in position to forgive or say okay past is past let us start a fresh. There is no such thing as we can’t move on, everyone and everything moves on. Life moves on we just need to be prepared to go with the flow.
Sometimes, we are just too late in accepting and forgiving and the other person may have chosen to move into another plane of existence. Then our anger or pain can turn into regret, guilt and a lot of IF’s can arise saying if only I had made peace and given a closure. This can go on and on and we may just become totally clueless and helpless and not know what to do.
A conscious decision had to come from within us, that yes no matter what for my own inner peace, I wish to let go and forgive. This will help us release the emotions and feelings and also we can avoid allowing this anger or pain to manifest into any kind of disease within us.
When we make it a conscious effort then it’s easy for us to move ahead with a positive thought frame, accepting the lessons. Forgiving and having gratitude for the lessons as we move on in life. No matter how bitter the experiences were. It’s worth it to forgive and keep going on our path traveling light and easy.
Forgiveness is an art of accepting the lessons and experiences and moving on saying thank you and I let go.
Forgiveness has to come from your heart, it has to be your will to say okay thank you for everything you have taught me and for the amazing experiences. I accept it.
Reach out to Samskara Healing if you have an issue or trouble to let go for guidance, support or a session.
🌺Palash 🌺
Spiritual Healer @samskarahealing
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