Is it easy to forgive people who have hurt us?
There are enough mythological stories to show how wars have been fought over something that was done and caused pain or humiliation. In many stories from folklore to fiction, a lot of examples are there wherein certain acts are done cause of pain or the suffering incurred to an individual. We can weave a beautiful story out of just one simple situation which caused anger or stress.
One vital aspect we need to remember is it’s not easy to forgive as there has been something that has surpassed which has inflicted pain and distress to you and maybe whirled you to your roots. Ego comes in and takes a dominant role and trying to nurse ego can put you into a spiral of victimizing and self-wounding.
When something goes wrong and we are pained or hurt the first thing is we slip into denial wondering
Why me?
What have I done wrong?
The next would be reliving the same pain time and again. The more we live in the past we tend to forget to live in the present. Through this exercise, we are creating stagnation of energy and feeding the unpleasant experience with more and more energy.
Energy feeds and lives on energy, and everything is energy when we understand this it would become easy to know and understand why we create so much disharmony in our lives. Through our constant thoughts, we go on reliving the same, and no matter what when we are not ready to let go.
This creates a vicious web around us and with our constant bickering and remembering the same we start to live in the past. Creating stagnation and inner conflict. What can initially be pain or wound can turn to suppressed anger or hatred. This is dangerous for us as we are beautifully creating a breeding ground for illness and disease within our energy field.
Now the question remains
Can I forgive easily?
It is difficult as I stated, only when we have healed and let go is it possible to forgive. The biggest block is the ego. Ego can take us on a spiral of emotional upheaval.
How can we/I help ourselves/ myself?
- Allow yourself to feel the pain and suffering go through it.
- Introspect and journal the parade of feelings and emotions. Addressing each emotion and acknowledging the same.
- Please be aware and don’t try to suppress any emotion or ignore your pain.
- Speak it out expressing your pain and discomfort on the same. Please be aware and don’t get caught in the whirlpool.
- There is no need to forgive immediately take your time to process and heal.
- When you have accepted the lessons and learned your mistakes or faults start working on releasing.
- Look at ways to support yourself as you heal and let go as it’s not easy.
- Accept the lessons and slowly start letting go with gratitude and love.
- Through the process of acceptance, it will be easy to forgive and let go.
It is not easy but when one comes to the point of being able to forgive and move on, it helps one walk with a gait and the body language will clearly show how comfortable you are with the whole situation.
Many times we carry the pain for many lifetimes and make the patterns manifest in our space being totally oblivious to the charade of emotions or consequences of
unfolding the same and refusing to learn our lessons.
Forgiveness has to be done not to please others but for your happiness and peace.
Forgiveness does not make you weak or vulnerable but makes one stronger and more confident.
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