IS IT OKAY TO BE VULNERABLE?
Being Vulnerable is a debatable topic, is it a good thing? Or should one be watchful of being vulnerable? Today’s life is such that we all are vulnerable to a whole lot of things. The reasons can weary from our exposure to various things and our perceptions being built on the same.
Now the main question is WHAT IS VULNERABILITY?
Vulnerable is allowing oneself to be exposed to or subjected to being hurt or potentially being in a tricky situation. Possibility of being judged or being cornered with preconceived notions.
There are four types of vulnerability
Social
Economic
Physical
Attitudinal
There can be various reasons for us allow ourselves to be in such situations.
Patterns
Fear
Belief
Not that anyone wants to get into a vulnerable position and allow ourself to be traumatized with various emotion turmoil. But when it happens it does take a toll and we just don’t know what’s right or wrong.
Who can we trust, we just start looking for help try be in a spot of self pity and sympathy. Though then we will be only pushing ourselves to be moving deeper into being vulnerable and suffering through the whole process.
Now comes the million dollar question is being vulnerable our weakness?
Being vulnerable is often perceived as being our weakness, but in reality it also shows our strength and courage to be in situations that can be tricky or difficult for the person. This also shows us how we need to fight or try to work on ourselves:
The point comes, when we allow it to become our weakness and don’t try to build courage or strength to say the right things or fight it out. That’s when the whole being vulnerable can be tough. Keeping in mind as stated earlier that it we all are vulnerable to a lot of things that is put on us with our without our permission.
At times we learn to ignore and not look at things which can be troublesome or become triggers. Then there are certain facts that does cause trigger and puts us in the light or in a spot. We just don’t know how to handle it or then there are some fighters being vulnerable makes them stronger and they move ahead.
Now when we look at vulnerable in this perceptive, it does make one wonder, as we all believe and think that it is a bad thing to allow one to be in a vulnerable position. When the perceptions change and we start looking at the positive elements of being vulnerable and the kind of life experiences coming our way. One can learn ways on how build self esteem and confidence even though they are in a vulnerable position.
The idea of letting yourself to be in a position of maybe being rejected or something humiliating can be a scary and painful thought. You would never want to be in that situation and that how you would try to block being vulnerable.
Tips on how to face situations being vulnerable.
>Respect yourself and know your self worthy hold onto your self esteem and confidence. What the other person feels or does should not effect you.
>Be strong time face it, know there is no escape, even if you try to escape it there can be regret later about the same.
>Break the resistance wall, be it a good outcome or a bad outcome we can’t hide from it. So might as well face the facts of life with strength no matter how tough it is.
>Have faith and trust yourself know you have the inner strength to face any situation that you are in.
>Accept the outcome no matter what it is, know you can’t control or try to maneuver the results so just let things be and happen however it does.
Share your feelings and hurt with someone and release it from your system. There is no need to hold onto it or trying to suppress your emotions.
>By avoiding the situation we are only inviting a bigger lesson and awkward moment. We are losing a chance to experience our learnings from the situation.
>You need to also see how much you are hurting already and by not being able to get the required space or result you will anyways have other emotional experiences.
We may get into a situation where we feel vulnerability is hard is cause it becomes our weakness and not strength. We fear the outcome and our not ready to face what’s coming our way. We try to escape the situation with lame excuses or just don’t own up to the fact that you are in a vulnerable position.
One needs to know it’s not about winning or losing but it’s about being able to face whatever the situation it’s about having the courage and will to go in no matter what.
Next time in a vulnerable situation don’t shrivel or run allow yourself to be you and face the situation.
Make vulnerability your strength not your weakness, allow yourself to accept the lessons and walk out with wisdom not pain.
Reach out to Samskara Healing if you have an issue or trouble to let go for guidance, support or a session.
🌺Palash 🌺
Spiritual Healer @samskarahealing
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