Is life all about ifs and buts?

The statements of if only I had done this or but I don’t have the time it money. If I can afford it but I don’t think I can do it now. Such statements are often used callously by us. We never give a second thought when using these statements. Many of our statements start with ifs and buts. Well, life does not go or flow with ifs and buts.

When we look at these two words it literally shows me the point of being helpless or feeling hopeless about a certain turn of events. To this, if we add a question mark ❓❓ or an exclamation mark ‼️ it can also be perceived as needing support to move forward.

Many revolve their entire life around ifs and buts but in reality what does one achieve through the ifs and buts? Nothing, as through these ifs and buts many blocks and challenges get manifested into our spaces. We live in the state of being oblivious and stuck to the point of if only I had this or but I can’t do this.

Over a period these can become assertive statements and get imbibed into our systems and these statements come out daily without fail and we start weaving a vicious web of ifs and buts. Once stuck in this it’s difficult to waddle our way out of it.

Another aspect to the use of ifs and buts is that we can start to dwell in the past or move to dwell in future and in the process be completely oblivious to the present. The main reason one is asked to be mindful is to be in the present. As the past can’t be undone and the future is not ours to see or unknown.

The ifs and buts remain as ifs and buts these can never be changed.

For eg:-

If I had the money I would have done……….
Now when we keep saying this no matter what we will never have the money to do what we truly want. The simple reason being that this if has created a block in your life for the dream we had.

If I could afford it I would surely buy it but I don’t have money. What a clichés statement! Do you realize how with our words we just affirmed that I can’t afford it as I don’t have the money. ( It maybe true, there is a point of being cautious and rephrasing the statement )

Another such statement is

But I am not ready to let go if only things were different. Well, things would be and can be different when we attempt to bring the change. The change comes from us, when we don’t make an attempt and sit to state ifs and buts how can anything be rectified or changed.

These statements are not negative but when stated in a particular way they can become a major hindrance and block to our growth and journey of life. Life of course has it’s ways to teach us and make us understand these statements. We need to be mindful of these can become patterns that will not be released until we learn our faults or mistakes.

Ifs and buts are good to be used in stories and narrations, not in our day to day events of life. Once we are stuck in the web the only way out is to accept and embrace the facts of knowing what the lessons are and move on.

These ifs and buts gets us stuck to the past and many things we can slip into the state of denial. When in denial no matter what the ifs and buts will only be in it’s peak. As the cause of the denial, it becomes very difficult to let go and move on. Many times one can get caught in the point of proving what they feel is right.

The one and the only way to move ahead is to be mindful and slowly remove these from statements making them mindful and positive statements or lines.

For eg:-

• I will do this course as the money comes to me or I will start the course soon I am expecting some funds. ( its is irrelevant what, how or when)
• I can try to make it depending on what time I finish my work/ assignment ( many say if I finish I will come or I can but depends on my work)
• I will buy this flat/ home as and when the money starts to flow to me or I am picking up my dream home with the flow of income. ( Instead of saying that If onlyni had the money but I am not sure or but this is expensive if only I had the opportunity )
• I am anxious about this and I pray that things get sorted out easily. ( if only they listen to me or but I don’t understand )
• I am planning my holidays with the comfort of finances or I shall be planning my holiday in my dream destination. ( if I had the money I could plan my holiday or but I can’t plan now I don’t have money)
• I shall take my dream job as and when it comes or I am getting an offer from my dream job. ( if I get an offer I will take it or but they haven’t got back to me)

These are few statements that can be mindfully changed. Feel free to change it to your comfort. The point is to try to be mindful in using the ifs and buts. My shamanic teacher would often say the only but is what you sit on, in case anyone of us used the word but. In the day to day activity using ifs and buts takes you nowhere.

The universe laws don’t abide with ifs and buts they abide with us being aligned to the universal consciousness and have the energies flow the right way.

Life does not flow with crutches of ifs and buts so choose your words wisely.

Ifs and buts will take you nowhere but in circles of ifs and buts.

Get in touch with Samskara Healing, if you are looking for a mentor or you need a session of healing and help remove blocks feel free to reach out and book a consultation.

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