It’s easy to break away from any Relationship!
A trend which is pretty popular today, there is no tolerance in many to withstand or give a second chance for anyone who has hurt them or given a chance to explain their faults. Life is not easy for anyone and keeping in mind when certain relationships are not going right they need to work on seeing how to get things right.
Breaking any relationship is very easy, all it takes is seconds to completely break up. But how many relationships are you planning on breaking or trying to bring an end to?
No one is perfect?
It’s about making things work the rightful way and giving space and time for every relationship. It’s never easy to work with tough relationships especially when there are abuses and issues of being treated badly. Of course one needs to get out a situation like that. Here I am only talking about relationships with simple and basic misunderstanding coming to a point of having a break-up.
When one makes it a habit to break up regularly the pattern starts to deepen and we can never have commitments as the trust factor leaves us. The point of trying to balance relationships come is when there is trust and respect in it. When these go out of the window many relationships are dead or just for convenience as there is no other reason for it to be a healthy one.
As I started breaking away is very easy, the slightest excuse is enough to break away and move off. But trying to stay in a relationship and work things out accepting the flaws and moving ahead to see things with love and gratitude helps one value every relationship that comes through our doors. As each relationship brings to us beautiful lessons and imbibing these lessons and acknowledging them is much needed and the best way to go.
The normal reaction one goes is trying to
- Slip in to denial
- Refuse to accept the faults by oneself
- Wanting to change a person for their benefit
- Being unreasonable
- Not giving any time or effort into helping out
- Working from the point of anger or resentment
- Trying to be unfaithful out of boredom or due to a lack in the relationship
- Being overly dramatic about things
- Blame games
It’s nothing but natural after some years certain relationships reach saturation. After which it needs to be tended with tender loving care. You can’t just try to pull out of it for no simple reason. Trying to justify or reason things out for your acceptance won’t get you anywhere. But be reasonable and realistic, work through the tough spaces clearing the darkness and see what’s best for the relationship to be worked on.
When certain things happen or anything happens against ones will or happiness, things in any relationship take a turn towards downward spiralling. That’s the time when one needs to step out and try to understand what exactly is it they want and how do they wish to clear things up. Instead of slipping into denial or moving towards emotions like anger and resentment. These emotions other than causing pain and suffering for the person holding onto these emotions there is no other benefit.
How can we work things out?
- In any relationship it has to be built on trust and respect. When this basic foundation is not there no matter what we can not make these relationships work.
- Giving space to each other and respecting the space is much needed and should be done accordingly depending on what’s okay and not okay. Trying to step into someone’s space without permission should never be done.
- It’s normal to have expectations from loved ones. These expectations lead to pain and suffering. So keep the expectations low and try to work things not expecting certain things. So when something is down for you it becomes a pleasant surprise. At the same time when not done you are not disappointed.
- Keeping an open communication is very much needed. As when there is miscommunication it can lead to a lot of resentment and also for creating unwanted stress in any relationship. Be honest and keep your thoughts clear and pure. Understand the other person also has right of opinion.
- Trying to change someone for our own need or like is not something that is going to be taken well. Try to also understand what is the other persons strength and weakness. It helps to build on the relationship.
- Perceptions should be expressed and don’t get caught in the point of limiting beliefs and letting them create unwanted emotions that may not be needed.
- Be truthful and honest express when hurt but avoid getting into the blame games. Just express that your hurt for whatever reason and let things go. Avoid carrying the baggage and having grudges. That will only slow you down and not let you move on happily.
- Carrying gratitude for the beautiful lessons that comes and accepting them without being ungrateful is much needed. Be mindful with how you express yourself about each relationship.
- Work in forgiving those who have hurt you. They have hurt you only cause there were some important lessons to learn accept them and forgive them.
- Let go of bitterness and resentment a true healthy relationship needs to be done with love, respect and happiness.
When we understand these points and go about our life. This is something important to acknowledge. Everyone come a reason and season to teach us certain valuable lessons then they move on once lessons are imparted. So when in certain relationships try to understand when you wish to break away of it is time to move away or are the paths changing.
Each every relationship comes in to teach us important lessons. The quicker we understand that it’s better for us.
Life lessons come to us through the various relationships we have, it’s totally up to us how we accept it.
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