MANIPULATION
Now is this really needed for a basic survival instinct? I am unsure though as I feel life can be a very happy and smooth journey. As usual, the choice is ours and it’s totally up to us which path we choose and how are we moving ahead.
There are many things that come into account, as to why would one even move towards manipulation or maybe traits of being manipulative. So some of the common reasons are:-
- Perceptions of life
- Limited belief systems
- Past experiences
- Insecurities
- Fear
- Repeated patterns
- Failures
When we look at these reasons, it’s clear to understand and know how deep the triggers and issues can be. All the above-stated pointers can actually entwine and a vicious web can actually be weaved which would make it difficult for one to escape or even move out of the clutches of being a manipulator.
Though these are the facts my question still remains would you really step towards being manipulative
Not taking into account the pain and discomfort you are causing for the ones with who you are manipulating your way with being oblivious and they being equally oblivious to your acts.
Would this really make you happy to do something like that?
What kind of satisfaction would one get by inflinching pain and suffering?
A person who walks the path with diplomacy may just absorb the manipulation being targeted and suffer silently unaware of how to express or even communicate as they have chosen diplomacy as their stance.
What about the one’s who are pretty open in stating hey listen don’t do this to me. I am not going to let you walk over me like I am a doormat. They may voice and react but would that make a difference to you?
It’s is tricky for sure for one’s who are being manipulated into doing things they don’t want or dislike. As they know they are being manipulated and yet they are unable to do the rightful things or even stop the manipulation.
Now here it’s absolutely your choice do you wish to experience the manipulation and go through the suffering or you wish to take a stand and voice your thoughts on the same.
It is a tough spot but sitting and going on cribbing and nagging will get you nothing. Instead of wasting the time of cribbing and nagging. One should rather either just accept the fact that okay yes I am being manipulated and
- I wish to do something about it!
- I don’t wish to do anything about it.
It’s completely up to you, once the decision is taken learn to live with it without any fuss of denial.
Whereas the manipulator it’s again his/ her choice on what they wish to do not do. When someone feels that the triggers are fine and they don’t wish to have them looked into or addressed then it’s completely up to the person and their priorities.
Excuses can be many, so is denial nevertheless that does not give a right to misbehave or treat someone in a mean way. You cannot carry your baggage and dump it on your family or loved ones and then through the triggers trying to manipulate them.
Really that’s a very mean thought to have and if these kind of thoughts are cropping up it’s time to really seek help and support through some kind of professional person ( healer, counselor)
I would like to share some tips on how to get out of a situation where you are being manipulated.
- A good start would be acknowledging the fact that okay yes I am being manipulated.
- Try to ground yourself and keep yourself anchored while you decide to take an action in it.
- It’s natural to be hurt or pained its absolutely normal. But also remember the other person wants you to feel this way. So be cautious about how you react.
- Avoid confrontations and blame games to be more assertive and use ‘I’ statements.
- Respect and listen to your feelings it’s really important to understand this and be mindful about it.
- Be assertive and don’t let your stand weaken ours out of fear or worry.
- Pay more attention to your acts than your words.
- Evaluate your relationship and decide how important it is for you.
- Work on your weakness and see how to help yourself out of the situation.
- Avoid getting on a guilt trip or even going down that path.
A person who is the manipulator can first take the responsibility of working on their triggers and seeing what to do and how to move ahead. No one is bad or no one is mean situations and circumstances put us through these situations and circumstances.
Our insecurities and weakness cannot be thrown on to someone else just to make us feel better.
Manipulation is not the easy way out but pushing yourself deeper into your toxic thought process.
Get in touch with Samskara Healing in case you feel you need to clarify or get guidance for an issue or for a support session.
🌺Palash 🌺
Spiritual Healer @samskarahealing
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