SELF RESPECT vs EGO

Many times we get confused with whether we have our ego at play or is our self-respect showing itself up and trying to help us set boundaries. There is a fine line between the two and many times we can get confused or mistake the aspect of self-respect as Ego.

Though at times Ego can play and get tricky for us when we are not ready to face the reality or even try to understand that ego is the one at play. While when we work with self-respect things are different and work completely in a different way.

Let us first take a quick look at what is Ego?

The “I” or self of any person; a person as thinking, feeling, and willing, and distinguishing itself from the selves of others and from objects of its thought. … and at times the aspect of self-importance can be seen as ego.

What is self respect ?

Proper respect for oneself as a human being or regard for one’s own standing or position. Acknowledging oneself for who they truly are and loving oneself with acceptance.

Now let us see what’s the difference between the two ?

Ego brings about pride in oneself and can be a persistent feeling of self elation whereas in Self respect it is all about acknowledging and acceptance of self and having self-control and worth. Moreover, self-respect brings about a balance of what I feel and what he/ she feels.

Now at times, we do catch and we are unaware of it’s our ego at play or the self-respect. Moreover, we also get caught thinking what if the other person thinks it’s my ego that is at play.

First thing first we cannot please the world and try to explain why we are doing or saying something or trying to justify that you were acting on a point of self-respect and not ego. No one is interested nor keen on knowing or waiting for an explanation. They will anyways have their own set of beliefs and perceptions from which they will decide on what they feel is right.

So instead of trying to prove yourself right to the people who already have their perceptions set look at ways to understand yourself and how to accept whether you have the ego issues or self-respect. There is fear which comes with ego and that is what people will say or think..!

Whereas with self-respect this issue is really of no consequence or of importance cause you are only going about doing what you feel is right and also keeping in mind the other person’s feelings or opinions.

As one gets an understanding of ego and self-respect let me put down some pointers wherein you can explore and understand for yourself as to from which aspect are you operating.

1. Self-respect usually comes with a lot of understanding and love along with acceptance and guidance. I me and myself here can be more related to the Ego.
2. Trying to be in denial or refusing to see the facts trying to avoid reality is a clear indication of operating with ego and this is no self-respect. As ‘I ‘ becomes the strong point for ego.
3. Shying away or trying to prove a point and seeking revenge for certain aspects of life is another aspect of ego. Through self-respect, these are never thought or try to even hold onto it.
4. The ego never picks battles or chooses what’s right whereas through self-respect one will pick and choose what is right for the peace of mind and sanctity of self.
5. Self Respect teaches us to value and trust ourselves for what we our worth whereas Ego will make us feel insecure and incompetent in life. As we struggle to make ourselves worthwhile.
6. Self-respect clearly defines our identity and also allows us to be in acceptance of who we truly are. Ego is just going to be showcasing us with a struggle to hold onto what we call our true self.
7. Self-respect teaches ways to set boundaries and to step back from situations and hold on to the self-respect. The ego will only push to operate with hurt and pain and not understand the importance of boundaries.
8. Ego hurts our thoughts and beliefs which starts to be shown in our behavior and reactions and moreover we act from the point of the wound. In self respect we work with love, gratitude which defines self respect beautifully.
9. Self-respect teaches us ways to acknowledge ourselves and love oneself. Ego on the other hand will keep one in the face of wanting others to accept and love them.
10. Self-respect works with gratitude for life and ego works with nursing one’s wounds and beliefs.

I can go on writing about self respect and ego as these are both parts of us just two different traits but very closely attached to us. The best thing to do is Introspect and understand from where are you operating is it the ego or self respect.

Ask your self important questions like
🟢Am I hurt?
🟢Why is this bothering me?
🟢Am I ready to forgive and accept?
🟢What are my lessons?

So on keep asking yourself and try to understand at times it’s okay if your ego is in the dominant seat, working on it you can bring self-respect into the dominant seat. This kind of thing is not set once but we need to keep working on them daily.

Self Respect should define who you truly are and bring that forward as your true identity.

Acceptance, Gratitude, and forgiveness are important tools to heal and build on self respect.

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