The Carpenter Blames His Tools.
I love this phrase, it is something that I often use for many circumstances. I love the meaning of it and it holds a lot of intense meaning in it for many situations. I genuinely get annoyed when I see many people passing the buck just to get out of a situation.
Though the actual phrase goes with saying
” The Bad Carpenter Blames His Tools”. I don’t want to use the word bad and create ripples of discomfort to many. None of us is perfect no matter what we do or if we have hurt someone we can never accept to be called Bad.
Well, owning up-to anything takes a lot of will and effort. There has to be commitments and also the point of having self-confidence. Owning up-to to faults or failures are never easy and can turn into a nerve breaking rollercoaster ride with the fingers pointing and blame game.
What can get to a person’s peace is the callous way of passing the buck. Showing no remorse or even inclined to say I am sorry looks like I have done something wrong or it’s not gone the right way. Many people happily pass the buck without even a blink of an eye.
It’s beyond my understanding as to how can someone just be so careless and indifferent towards certain aspects and situations of life. What could be a loss for someone? I see many times people just shrugging a shoulder saying I don’t or maybe it’s lost or just blame something and walk away.
Excuse me!
Please take a moment to put yourself into that shoe and see how it feels before you just shrug and walk away without a blink of an eye. It’s easy to pass the blame. But owning up-to-the faults is totally another ball game all together.
Blaming your tools clearly shows how callous and unprofessional a person can be. It can also show how insensitive and careless the individual can be. Before blaming your tools check and see if really your tools have faulted or have you done something wrong.
No one is perfect and everyone has faults and failures. Failures bring such beautiful lessons for everyone. Why can’t failures be seen as a stepping stone to success? We all love to brag about our success and shine with our talks about how we got there.
Why not at the same time talk about the failures and how they have become beautiful stones that get exceptional lessons your way. By addressing these not only shows us more comfortable and confident it also showcases us as responsible and committed individuals.
How does one not get into the blame game of passing the buck?
- Introspect and take time to understand what has just transpired.
- Journal your day to day activities, if not at least weekly.
- Keep your boundaries in place and don’t let it collapse no matter what.
- Define your space and keep your self within that space and allow yourself to work towards being comfortable in your space.
- Accept setbacks and failures it’s part of life and also helps us build our lives on a stronger foundation.
- Set contingency plans and be open for things no to go as per plan.
- Own up to faults and failures and be open to learn from the mistakes.
Having a failure doesn’t make a person look weak or bad. It just shows us that a person is learning and moving forward to being more resilient in life. Before blaming or passing the buck take a moment and think of a mirror being placed in front of you. What you say comes back to you so think and then speak.
In case you do that person who is always passing the buck or trying to palm off the responsibility its time for you to step in and help or guide the person. As there can be various reasons why the person has not been able to own up:
- Fear of Acceptance
- Denial
- Repeated Failures
- Fear of the unknown
There can be various reasons and it should be looked into and help the person to be more open and accept the faults. A simple question to ask yourself is
Who makes the rules??
It is us, so if we make rules we can break rules also. Keeping that in mind instead of trying to make someone’s life difficult show them that they can own up and lead from their mistakes and be a true mentor or guide to that person
Before you blame your tools do remember the good old saying and you rather own up to your faults.
No one is perfect so its okay to make mistakes and have failures.
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🌺Palash 🌺
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