The excuses we make
Really,
Does anyone make an excuses or is it just natural??
Why do we get caught in making so many excuses?
Is life all about trying to prove ourselves right?
A lot of such questions float in our mind and makes us think and feel helpless and put us into situations where one sits to make excuses just to get out of something or avoid something. Through this process the reality or facts maybe ignored and they may just go about stating what they wish to say without thinking.
Life is not about trying to say what’s right or wrong. It’s all about living in the moment and embracing the happiness of that moment. The past is not in our hands the future is not in our hands. The only thing which is in our control is the present. Living in the moment and trying to make the best of it makes life way easier and helps one be on peace and happiness. When we give excuses for next time we are just being callous with our thoughts. The fact being we have no clue of what tomorrow can be.
Each one’s quest is to seek happiness and get clarity on their true essence of who they are what is their higher purpose. When there is no alignment of these it brings a lot of resistance and hurdles on the path. So next time if you don’t wish to do something be open enough to say no sorry. Avoid the bandwagon of excuses as even that may get exhausted over time.
There are many times we are unable to commit due to various reasons and circumstances. This leads us to make excuses and not accepting any kind of clarifications coming our way. Getting caught in denial and sitting on the fence with being indecisive will lead you nowhere. The whole point of asking you to work on avoiding excuses is for this one purpose. Once you start to slip into denial you will never know when you are wrong.
Is is really required to make excuses?
No it’s not needed at all, there is nothing wrong in declining certain things in life. When you are unable to do something be ready to openly say I am not sure.
When you are faced with uncertainties and especially when you don’t wish to do something and don’t know how to say a “NO”. Then it would be easier to make excuses and try to get out of the situation without much stress. But at times certain excuses can be lame and the others can see that and refuse to accept it or maybe they point it out saying you are going on giving excuses.
That can get awkward for one to face and can slip into weaving a web of denial trying to prove oneself right which is of absolutely no use.
Normally when one gets stuck:
- Understand what has been asked of you and see if you are ready to commit.
- Incase you are unable to commit introspect and check what in you is resisting the commitments.
- Check on your fear of uncertainties and try work things out for your own comfort.
- Remember you don’t have to please the world so it’s okay if you have to decline or refuse something.
- Explanations are not needed but open communications much needed for the same.
- Keep your self-confidence and esteem in check along with don’t let yourself to get bullied or pushed into the corner. This would put you in a spot which you may not be prepared.
- Set goals and work towards achieving them.
- It’s good to invest into one self to work on the weak areas and heal wounded spots.
- Avoid beating around the bush be open and state facts and be frank about it.
- Be a stickler to your commitments and allow yourself to have a contingency plan too.
When stuck in a situation allow yourself to be set your fears and accept what’s coming your way.
The option lies within us if we want to let the external stimuli affect us.
Excuses are not the way out of any situation in life.
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