The Lone Wolf

There is no set rule about being a lone wolf. It’s neither good nor bad. One may feel lonely even amid company. The reason being social interactions are only one aspect of living. There is more to everyone’s life than just social life.

A person who’s a lone wolf is solitary and often alone. But he/ she isn’t necessarily lonely since he/ she prefers his/ her solitude. This is would be respected and also understood.

An Idiom ” The Lone Wolf” is a metaphorical figure of speech which is derived from the phenomenon in nature. Wolves are said to normally travel in packs and at times one is driven from the pack and must survive on its own.

However, just because the term loner may have taken on some negative connotations doesn’t mean being one is a bad thing by any means—there’s evidence to suggest that loners aren’t inherently unhappy, and in many cases are of higher intelligence than their extroverted counterparts.

It can become a debatable topic as to whether it’s okay to be a lone wolf or even go about being a lone wolf.

Just cause one decides to stray from the group and move away for a reason or a certain period is not a social taboo and cannot be labeled with the title lone wolf. At the same time if someone is the kind of person who is an introvert and wishes to spend time by themselves and prefers to do things on their own it’s okay to use the phrase of a lone wolf.

At the same time, one should avoid labeling the person without understanding the history or reasons why he/ she has turned towards the path of a lone wolf.

A lone wolf can’t be seen as a person who is weak or needs support. He/ she can still be strong and go about being equally successful. The dreams and visions can be lived and also worked on. There are no social taboos that can bind a lone wolf. He/ she works as per their needs and necessity.

This is okay and acceptable without any hindrances as not everyone has to be like a flock of sheep following the herd. There can be individuals who are happy to walk alone and go about doing what they want.

Only if a person takes challenges and is ready to walk the path alone or be different from others does one even see or experience the true essence of who we are? So as I stated earlier there is no right or wrong. It all depends on the individual’s perceptions and belief system.

There can be some confusion about could this person be in depression or if the person feeling lonely. Usually, a lone wolf wishes to be by him/herself. They don’t wish to follow the pack or do things that have been done by others. So no they are not in depression or being lonely as they have chosen this for a reason.

They have the option of moving back into the pack when the need is there. Nevertheless, a lone wolf has to keep a tab on many things. You make sure the person is not going off the cliff or doing the wrong thing. One way of doing that is being alert to the environment and taking in the messages that come in.

There can be many reasons why one would choose to be a lone wolf:-

• Prefer to work by themselves than working in groups.
• Has a strong introvert personality type
• Shy by nature
• Dislikes large groups and social interactions as they find them distracting
• The dreams are different and the path is a lonely one.
• Their creativity stirs them to be by themselves.
• They prefer to have privacy in their life

Being a lone wolf doesn’t have to imply that one is suffering from any mental disorders. It’s a choice taken consciously and others should be ready to accept it and honor it. The social taboos are made by those who prefer to work in packs and don’t understand the difference between the two and find it difficult to accept.

Some simple tips to accept a lone wolf into our life:-

• Let them be and don’t try to change them.
• Understand the reasons and facilitate the space that’s needed for the person or yourself.
• Respect the decision and accept it then trying to defend it or deny the same.
• Define the boundaries or get the boundaries defined.
• Keep open communication to help any blocks or hurdles to be removed.
• Rework on the beliefs and perceptions.
• Keep your confidence high and also let the other person’s confidence be high.
• If the person is an introvert please help with interpersonal relationship skills and communication skills so that if need be they can express or communicate.
• Be watchful and mindful holding space for the person who has chosen to walk the path or alone or be a lone wolf.

It takes a lot of inner strength and confidence to walk away from the herd mentality and do things differently.

Being a Lone Wolf is not a social outcast or a social taboo but a choice for a reason and season.

🌺Palash 🌺
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