The Other Side of the Mountain is Greener….
I am sure this a statement you would have heard pretty often. Not only heard, you may have stated too in some discussions, irrespective of the topic. The point is,
Is really the other side of the mountain greener?
Though, we all the know the answer for this. Yet one may try to justify or reason why one would think the other side of the mountain is greener. It’s beyond one’s thought process of how one can actually wallop in a fantasy land being completely oblivious to the facts.
In short if I have to explain what this means: to think that other’s life or situation is better than mine. to believe that someone else’s life is better their own. to think that the other person has it easier in a direct competition.
“The human heart has ever dreamed of a fairer world than the one it knows.”- Carleton Noyes
It means that no matter how much you give to a person, he/she will always find what someone else has better. Thus, in the process of trying to achieve something better one may end up losing what they have.
Let’s take an example of a goat in a field. A goat is having green grasses on a field, after sometimes he sees other goats having grasses on the other field. It seems to him that the goats on the other field are having more fun and have greener and lusher grasses. So he decides to visit the other field, but when he reach the other field he realize the grasses on his felid were much better and will want to go back.
In short, a human’s want is more and can never be satisfied with what he/she holds onto. As I am writing about this I am reminded of another proverb.
“ I cried and cried that I had no shoes, until I saw a man with no legs”.
This comes with such a beautiful lesson making one understand the importance of being happy with what you have. No matter what, unless you don’t get into shoes of the other person. You will never know if their life is easy as ABC or if it’s bed of roses or bed of thorns.
The simple and basic fact is, each one have a different way of dealing with their issues. Some speak and make a lot of noise, while some maybe silent. It is absolutely irrelevant whether someone is speaking about the problems or not. The point is each and everyone will be going through their fair share of issues and problems. Of course, there would be a threshold to what extent they would be able to handle or maintain those issues.
Looking at someone’s life and easily stating what for them they have it all or saying something like life is unfair to me. Maybe even stating a fact like, I wish I had a life like this, would put us in a space where it becomes very difficult for us to deal with it. I have often come across these statements. I have turned around and asked them are you ready to get into the shoes or try to do what they do. Usually I met with silence. Sometimes I do get an answer why not they have everything on a plate for them.
What one needs to understand and know is each everyone is unique and have that one soul calling which they need to follow. No two paths are similar, nor are two experiences similar. Bring it into the space of being understanding and accepting of your current station.
Some simple steps to be in space of acceptance:-
- Count your blessings. Take time to make a list and place it where you can see it everyday.
- Keep a gratitude journal and write your daily gratitude for all the things that you have and you have accepted as your blessings.
- Introspect into your spaces where there are blocks and see why these are coming up as blocks or obstacles.
- Try to pick a new path if it’s needed, so that you can progress without any discomfort or stress.
- Let go of things that don’t serve you well. It’s important for you to have the knowledge, of the amount of baggage you are carrying. This can become a Herculean task itself.
- Next moving into space of negative talk, bringing oneself down with derogatory statements. Not only will you be creating unwanted issues and blocks in your space, you will also bringing down your levels of self-respect and self-esteem.
- Work towards doing charity, even if it’s small it’s okay. Do it from your heart, bring about happiness with whatever you are wishing to share.
- Instead of trying to fit into someone else’s shoes. Focus on fitting into your own shoes the right way with comfort and ease.
When you understand the simple facts of life and nitty-gritty. It makes it that simple and easy to live with all the ups and downs of life. Holding onto what you have with gratitude, will help you move on with grace and ease. The hiccups and anxiety which could disturb your peace of mind is completely put to rest.
Trying to see if you can copy and make your life as excited as the other person is never feasible nor possible. Simple reason is, you will never know the truth.
Never get caught in the illusions of thinking that the other side of the mountain is always greener. The facts remains until you don’t move to that side you will never know.
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Written by
Dr. JayaPalashri
The Spiritual Princess
Shamanism
Reiki Grandmaster
Meditation Facilitator
Samskara Healing