Trust!!!

I would like to start with a beautiful quote that I came across.

“ Trust starts with trust and ends with trust”.

This quote says it all, I don’t think I have to get in to explain this further or even speak about it. Simple law of laying foundation for any relationship. Trust is the glue from which the the foundation bricks are laid for a relationship. Ofcourse there are other elements which would also play a vital role.

Nevertheless trust is the key element, without trust the basic core element it’s very difficult to build or hold onto any relationship.

I was once asked in an interview, ‘How do you trust so easily’?

That’s an important point, but I don’t trust easily, I trust from point of having faith in myself and also in my choices. I maybe wrong, there maybe mistakes. Nevertheless it brings important lessons to surface. I accept my lessons and move on with ease and grace.

I can speak non stop about trust, but let me slow down and speak about

What happens when trust is broken?

Let’s take an example of a vase, it could be something dear to you. Once it’s broken though it maybe fixed back together. It will never look the same. Similarly once trust is broken no matter what you try to do to fix it with. It will never be the same. The bitterness will be seen always.

When you start to see trust as an important pillar and foundation it would become essential to work on it. Repeated patterns of having trust broken is a clear indication that the lessons are not learnt yet. It is essential for you to slow down and sit to introspect and understand why are these patterns repeating.

• What is your learning?
• What are you missing out?
• Are you open to correcting your faults?
• What are the patterns?
• Do you have trust issues?

When you have trust issues, and also there are patterns repeating. It’s good to work on these,

• Start off with first accepting the lessons.
• Avoid moving in to the space of denial.
• Look at the way things have gone sour or bad.
• Define your boundaries and at times emphasize on these.
• Don’t move into the space of guilt or shame.
• Understand where you stand, weigh the pros and cons.
• Acknowledge the pain you have gone through pertaining to this pattern.
• Accept the learnings and see what is it teaching you. Other than the point of I can never trust again.
• Work on the patterns and start to release the baggage that you are carrying pertaining to trust issues.

Once you understand the patterns and start to release the unwanted baggage. It becomes easier for you to step out these trust issues. Ofcourse you won’t trust easily again. At the same time you will understand the importance of setting boundaries and also placing your trust within this boundary.

Trust can be broken easily, hence it’s important to set boundaries and do not others have the power over you.

Once trust is broken, nothing can be the same again. The cracks will always be visible in the relationship.

Trust is as delicate as an exquisite vase, once broken the look of vase changes completely. The value of the vase also changes completely. Similarly trust once broken looses its strong hold.

Written by
Dr. JayaPalashri
The Spiritual Princess
Shamanism
Reiki Grandmaster
Meditation Facilitator
Samskara Healing