WHAT CAN ONE DO WHEN THEIR IDENTITY IS BEING QUESTIONED?
Yes, haven’t we all been in such situations where our identity has been questioned or we are being pushed aside by not being acknowledged for something we have done.
Hmmm, how many of you stopped to actually think back to the number of times this has actually happened to you. Maybe you could have done this to someone else but the fact remains has it effected it you?
Sometimes just cause one could have experienced this and if this becomes so painful and unbearable that they can choose meanness over the point of niceness and become bitter. So they see low self-esteem or maybe even a person with high self-esteem they can go all out to break the person into pieces.
This is something I often think about and wonder what in us actually brings about the meanness within us. Can it be our own
>Insecurities
>Low self-esteem
>Jealousy
>Anger
>Some underlying emotion
>The love of holding power and control
>Shadow part which needs to be acknowledged
Well, it can be any of the above or all of it, though one can deny, meanness can only come up when we have something within us which we are unable to deal with and don’t wish to deal with it. When we need to choose, we choose the path of bitterness and meanness just cause you are unable to see the other person happy.
Haven’t we all been at times been cornered or our self-respect been questioned?
What do we do ?
>We give in
>Our self-respect is let to crumble
>We give power to the other person subconsciously to treat us in a certain way
>We sulk, cry
>Drown in self-pity
>Hold onto the rejection and humiliation
>At times we are stuck in the situation
Our identity is built on our
>Self Respect
>Self Esteem
>Self Love
>Self Confidence
> Self-worthiness
When any of this gets compromised or negotiated we allow ourselves to be targeted or victimized into the spot or situation. Then the choice lies with us.
Do I wish to act on this ?
In case your answer is yes then it’s time to put your foot down and be assertive of your boundaries. Pulling your power back and trying to retain your self-respect, esteem, love, worthiness, and confidence.
One may ask is my ego coming to play?
There is a fine line in which one needs to be cautious and also see are they trying to protect their identity by taking certain strong steps or are they acting from the point of wounding.
In case you operating from the point of wounding then one needs to be really careful and also work towards healing yourself as you can walk into similar situations time and again. Plus we can be working with the ego in a dominant seat. This is something to be careful about and work on if that’s the truth.
Whereas if this is a way of you setting boundaries and saying enough I am not here to be dictated about or ordered around you are working from an aspect of self-respect and dignity. That is very much needed, no one has the right to order you about or even tell you what to do as you have free will. People picking on you are clearly showing their own insecurities and not able to accept it. Of course many may say this is debatable.
Again it lies in the point of perception and what one believes in to be true. This would come as a valuable input for the person. You can choose your battles and also in the areas you wish to express yourself and the areas you wish to walk away without looking back. As you know it’s not worth your time or your effort of even getting into something this nasty.
The first step is when your presence is not acknowledged or you are being ignored, one should hold their dignity and walk out. As there is no use being there and then allowing the wounding to come in. It’s irrelevant if people say how arrogant. It’s their perception, not yours, you are not answerable to anyone else but yourself.
One needs to know the most precious gift one can actually have is to preserve their self-respect.
Nothing in this world is worth compromising your self respect.
Reach out to Samskara Healing if you have an issue or trouble to let go for guidance, support, or a session.
🌺Palash 🌺
Spiritual Healer @samskarahealing
Priestess|Shaman|Reiki Master
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