WHAT DOES ONE DO WHEN ONE FEELS UNWELCOME

Can we keep skipping meetings and situations?

Nope!!

Eventually, we will run out of excuses and how many excuses can one give there has to be a limit to what we say.

That’s where the crux of events can get us caught in a spot we don’t wish to be in. There can be various reasons why we actually are in that spot and no matter how much you have tried to avoid being in this situation. Not that one would really wish to be treated with a cold shoulder or a shrug.

Then why do we have this in our space that we have tumbled into space where you would wish that you can just get absorbed into the furniture or walls. Tears stinging your eyes you kind of curse yourself, saying “I had warned you not to accept or go there”. Now you are hurt what are you going to do now?

By going harsh or critical on self is really not the solution here. You can’t blame your self nor can allow yourself to be subjected to certain things time and again. Especially if you are one of those who have been working on yourself and your boundaries. Looking into self-respect and confidence and nurturing them to keep to stay positive.

Time and again repeating it’s okay I forgive and let it go. I accept whatever lessons you have got for me. Thank you for the wonderful lessons I am getting from you. There seems to be some major lesson which you are unable to fathom or even acknowledge and the same situation is repeating in your life.

Will this get to you ??

Of course it will!!

There is no way you can actually keep saying it’s okay, I forgive you and I let go. The point comes here which people fail to understand or even acknowledge is none of us wish to be in a situation like that.

When you pick your battles and have strong boundaries naturally your first step is to back off saying oops I am not meant to be here. Just cause you are there, it does not really give one the right to say or do whatever they wish to say or do.

At times though your upset and also know that you are upset there is nothing you can do as your communication of this can be misinterpreted or taken the wrong way. Now, this is something you are aware of and that makes it even more difficult for you.

Now why do we get ourselves into these situations in the first place?

1. It’s our value of certain relationships and causes we give our 100% towards making things work out.
2. Though you are being assertive there is the point of trying to give in cause of your love which at times can be your weakness
3. You may have tried to work yourself out of it but got caught right in the middle of what you really were trying to avoid by all means.
4. It’s your commitment to yourselves which puts you in awkward moments of life though one tries to avoid it like plague.
5. Getting talked into doing something you really are not comfortable with or even being in it.
6. You fail to actually express your self in a rightful manner.
7. Your boundaries need to be redefined and worked on and space redefined for your own peace of mind.

How do you handle yourself when you know you are unwelcome?

1. Breathe, allow yourself to breathe, and smile it’s important for you while grounding and settling down of your mind. Take time to settle in and focus on the emotions churning within you.
2. Try to calm the unsettling nerves, and when you are ready make small talk as you settle down into the space setting boundaries as you do so.
3. Avoid controversial talks and things which you know will actually be major triggers for you.
4. If you feel the talk there have you excluded at the first excuse you get to allow yourself to move out to another space around or use the restroom to freshen up.
5. Stand your ground and hold space for yourself as not one else is there to do that for you at the moment and don’t try to make a quick exit, showing them that they were right to even bring this trigger up-to you.
6. In case you feel your power is with them where they are using it to make you feel uncomfortable with the way they are treating you. As you’d seat yourself allow yourself to pull those energy chords and cut them with an imaginary knife.
7. Avoid showing your emotions at that moment as it may be mistaken or used as triggers for you.
8. Take time to introspect and work on releasing those painful thoughts no matter how many times you have to work on yourself.
9. Vent it out to a counselor or healer whoever is your therapist as you are in the position of working on yourself. If not maybe a good friend who is a shoulder of support to you.
10. Rework on your boundaries and space as it is rattled and you may feel uneasy and unsettled with this whole drama unraveling for you.

The point here is you don’t have to justify anything to anyone, allow yourself to be and for your own peace pick, and choose what you want. When we understand this basic principle life becomes really easy for us to live.

When picking battles, first keep your inner peace in mind, which helps one choose what is right.

Allow yourself to be loved first by your own thoughts and feelings before expecting it from others.

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