WHAT HAPPENS TO US WHEN WE HEAR A NO?
Wow, did I just hear a NO!!! that’s it my entire life around the person will come to a grinding halt. There is no looking back or talking about it. Wait, I am sure one would want to convince or talk about it or atleast try to convince a person by saying you are wrong by saying no.
Hello, relax
It’s not the end of the world or your relationship.
Maybe the other person is not ready for something or is uncomfortable at the moment why not give the person space. He/ she maybe going through their own journey or upheavals.
Not like every time you can get a yes for all that you ask, we have to face the No’s with equal zeal as we move on.
Jumping to conclusions or getting upset just cause you get a NO is a clear indication that you need to take a step back and look within yourself and see what exactly is happening and why are you getting upset.
A simple NO if it is getting so much of a reaction from you that it’s becoming difficult for you to manage then yes it’s time to think what’s wrong with oneself and how should one look into it. A no is not the end of the road, of course if the NO is for the relationship you may feel it’s the end of the road. But it won’t be the end of the road, there will be a turn or twist and you get back on track with or without the person.
When a NO is taken as a rejection and one starts to operate from point of hurt and wounding it’s about time to meet a healer/ counselor to help sort it out as it’s needed to release those sore wounds.
Trying to be mean, avoiding talks or being very difficult when spoken to is not going to fetch you anything other then unhappiness and suffering. We need to know and understand this and learn to move on in life. We can raise our boundaries, but first we need to know why are we raising our boundaries before we do.
Raising boundaries to protect ourselves at times just out of fear of being hurt we automatically start to set lower thresholds and this would easily lead us to set boundaries without actually understanding the real purpose or was essence.
When a NO is given with an answer as to why they are refusing then one should accept and respect it before trying to move on.
How do we deal with a No?
>Be mindful of the other person and respect their space and beliefs.
Avoid jumping to conclusions about the same.
>It’s not the end of the world so don’t react like this is the end, there will always be light at the end of the tunnel.
>When we try to interpret a NO please be mindful of your own thoughts and emotions.
>One cannot please everyone, keeping that thought it would help us operate with grace and compassion.
>Let then off the hook, smoothly trying to keep a very amicable stance and smooth conversation.
>If you are hurt or upset about this it’s good to express it without pointing fingers just showing your thoughts on the issue or situation.
>There are no dead ends or end of the road in anything but always a new beginning for every end.
Instead of shutting doors, or going incommunicado ask why what’s wrong and how can you help to sort out the misunderstandings of any or what needs to be done. Try not to procrastinate or try to avoid dealing with the point of acceptance. When one is being understanding the NO usually eventually comes around to becoming a yes.
When pushed and there is havoc then the NO remains and it will be difficult for one to let go of it.
For eg:- ( hypothetical example) I often hear a lot of No’s for various reasons, maybe they find my consultation prices high or someone may not be interested in my workshops. If I start jumping about on everything then I would be shutting doors on every path of mine. I just acknowledge the NO and also honor and respect their decision and what I hear back is Thank you for understanding. It’s as simple as that.
Now one can ask how can you be so calm and keep accepting a NO this can only happen when we understand that each one have their own journey and need to experience what they wish to experience. Each person has their free will and choice.
Next time you hear a NO please don’t shrivel and curl away, be open to accept it, smile and move ahead with no regret knowing that you have your own journey.
Accept a NO with grace and gratitude as there are strong lessons for one to heal from.
Receiving a NO is not the end of the world but beginning of a new journey
We meet and part of a reason so NO should not be held to heart but treated with gratitude as each one recognizes their journey.
Reach out to Samskara Healing if you have an issue or trouble to let go for guidance, support or a session.
🌺Palash 🌺
Spiritual Healer @samskarahealing
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