What makes me vulnerable to any situation?

Vulnerability sets in when we choose to permit ourselves to be treated in a particular way as we have heartily given our power to others. These people then can easily walk away with pressing the right triggers. The only way one can step out of the web of vulnerability is to be open to work on it by doing what is needed.

There can be many reasons why one can step into the focal point of being vulnerable or allowing oneself to be vulnerable. The environment plays a vital role in this and it kind puts a twist towards the path of where one can be put in the spotlight cause of their vulnerability. The journey of understanding how external stimuli can be one of our worst triggers is important to note.

The simple meaning of vulnerability is being exposed or attacked emotionally or physically. Many try to avoid being in a situation where one is in the point of being vulnerable. Nonetheless, due to various reasons and situations, one can stumble in and be in the state of refusal as they get caught in the web of vulnerability.

Though in any relationship vulnerability sets in as one allows him/herself to be open and frank about their emotions and thoughts. This is a big step for one especially when there is a chance of being judged or condemned for doing something right. Usually when a relationship gets close to the door if vulnerability opens up naturally as many hidden facts are shares or spoken about. Keeping in mind there is trust and confidence in knowing that you won’t be judged or spoken about.

Is it good to be Vulnerable?

Well, in a relationship it’s good to be vulnerable to allow oneself to speak up when hurt or express disappointment. At the same time, there has to be a conscious effort of being mindful of not giving their power away in the bargain.

Though being vulnerable can be addressed in four main factors,

1. Environmental
2. Emotional
3. Financial
4. Physical

Now when you realise these triggers the next question is how do you know when to draw a line in being vulnerable or allowing yourselves to be controlled by the power given by you through the process of trust and beliefs.

So can vulnerability be a sign of weakness??

No, it can be perceived as a sign of strength where you are opening up and ready to share your thoughts, opinions and concerns over certain matters. It’s not about winning or losing but its a choice one makes to express or communicate with each other. At any given time everyone is vulnerable at various times in life.

Now that we know that it’s okay to be vulnerable at times and there are times we can’t escape the clutches of vulnerability due situations and circumstances let us look at what to do when we wish not to be easily vulnerable.

How not to be vulnerable when not comfortable or ready for the same:

1. Introspect and check with where you stand with the situation. See how you feel and if your comfortable or not with things unfolding. If anything is not comforting it’s okay to put up boundaries and not let yourself to be on a spot of vulnerability.
2. It’s always good to talk and express be it whether you are comfortable or not with it. It’s good to be vocal and state if you are okay to allow yourself to be who you are or you wish to not be open or speak up. Choice should be with you and the decision lies with you always.
3. Make sure to have a reality check and have a birds eyes view of the turn of events. Looking at things with a perception of being open and non judgmental.
4. Ask yourself what is that you want out of it, whether you wish to do certain things from the point of being assertive and comfortable or just stay closed and move away.
5. Keep a safe space for yourself as well as your partner as it is much needed. Hold space too at times things may not go as per plan or what’s expected so that’s okay.
6. Even when you allow yourself to be vulnerable be careful and mindful to have your self-respect and esteem high and work from a point of self-love and not self-criticism.
7. The power should be given to only those who you are comfortable and you know they will not misuse the power for their own selfish needs.
8. In the process of being vulnerable there is no need to be in the point of being a victim. As that’s not the point here.
9. There is no aspect of being compromised into being vulnerable so make sure that you are vulnerable where you can express your true self to only those you trust and know that they won’t let you down.

Keeping this point in mind that there are a positive side and a negative side to being vulnerable. One should always know what is it they want and be clear to be grounded while taking a decision. There is no use to get caught up in the drama or be unsure how to progress without being assertive or clear on things.

At times due to past turn of events there can be skepticism about being vulnerable or if it’s worth being in a spot where you can be easily accessible or used. The fear when deep-rooted it causes certain blocks within us like

Fear of commitments
Fear of rejection
Fear of acceptance
Fear of being judged
Fear of breaking down or having a failure
There can many such fears which get deep rooted and cause chaos in creating patterns and hurdles of being vulnerable and yet not learning the way of life due to being in denial.

When these kind of things are happening time and again how can one help oneself?

• Be willing to know and understand where you stand and try to find the patterns and recurring lessons that’s coming up.
• Set boundaries and be ready to express the same as that’s your space and it’s okay to be vocal about it.
• Don’t rush or push yourself towards doing anything that is not resonating with you be clear and know that.
• Seek a professional( healer / counselor) help to help ascertain the situation and how to proceed.
• When you see patterns repeating be sure to step out of the situation to take control of things.
• Pull your power back and be mindful not to hurt the other person in the bargain.
• Seek someone to hold space for you and as they do take your time to work things out before you step out of the situation.
• Address each and every emotion that surfaces as it is much needed to address them than suppressing them.
• Respect your thoughts and choices and trust your gut instincts. It is much needed and will help you go a long way.

Vulnerability is a choice that should be with oneself and not be pushed into being vulnerable when not ready.

Being vulnerable should be seen as an inner strength and not our weakness.

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