Why can’t I stick to my commitments?
Commitments are something one can shy away or cringe away from for various reasons. There could be certain traumas or mishaps that could have accelerated the onset of the unfolding of events which has started a progression of events and patterns that are uncomfortable for us.
At times, sticking to a commitment is equally problematic and for whatever intentions we fail with our agreements. The consequence of it is inherently something which is not favourable as there is a lot of emotions like
- skepticism
- frustration
- uncertainty
- anxiety
- stress
- anger
- fear
- at times even hatred
When these emotions start grabbing the front seat it becomes very hard for both the person who gave the commitment and the person who believed in you. Well, what can one anticipate there will be emotions drifting about which would naturally lead one to react and not act on the circumstances.
Releasing a lot of toxins in the air, and bitterness in your thoughts and minds. There could be discords in relationships and at times even drifting off. When the pattern starts to repeat no one has the patience or the time to keep waiting for the blunders to be undone.
Yes, chances are given, but there are a boundary and threshold for the same. When a sorry is given and said I “shall not to do something like this”. Next minute if the same thing is repeated the first thing to go out of the window is the trust. Once trust is gone it becomes very difficult and the foundation goes unstable and risky.
It is always good to be open with the communication and be frank if you are unable to keep up to a commitment. When a commitment is given and the person who committed can’t stand by that’s a big failure on the person job. Can things be undone yes, but for that realization and acceptance has to be there. No use sitting in a corner and sulking thinking everyone is being mean or bad.
No one waits for anyone as the simple reason is life moves on. This is a basic universal law and no one change it or try to control it. As life keeps on moving people tend to move too. The thought will be simple that is if they wish they can catch up. There starts the steps towards discords in the relationship and blame games.
When the committed person fails in his/her commitment and then accuses the other person has not been responsible there is no use. Especially when there are no faults from the other person but trying to stick the commitment being given.
Commitment could be for anything be it
Relationship
Work
For some money payments
Workshops
Some common areas where one can commit and fail miserably. This also clearly shows your responsibility to self and others. Along with that your social skills and capabilities of handling stress. Everything is clearly shown with one’s commitment to be it work-related or on the personal front.
When one gives a commitment the natural process is that you trust the person committing to whatever. When repeatedly commitments are not kept up. It’s natural to feel lost and lose trait in that person. After which if it’s work-related it’s obvious that you would look for someone more committed or sincere. In personal space, one may want out of the relationship.
How can you be faithful or sincere with commitments:
- Committing is the easiest of the lot, staying committed is the tough one, for that one needs to be dedicated towards the commitments.
- Before committing weigh the pros and cons and understand what’s your responsibility and what is expected out of you.
- Blindly being pushed to commit is a bad idea, it’s good to be assertive and at times it’s okay to commit to something if you can’t keep it up.
- Make a list of your commitments and prioritize as per need and importance.
- Don’t mix up and mess your list of commitments, no one is interested in listening to your reasoning or explanation.
- Avoid giving silly excuses time and again. Maybe at times, you are forgiven but not always. Don’t try to hogwash the others due to your inefficiency or incapabilities.
- Your drawbacks or failures, are not to be put on others or pointed as the blame game. When as a one who committed it’s your duty and responsibility to stick to it.
- Though in relationships both are equally responsible for the commitments so it’s good to equally stand tall and accept the level of commitment with dignity and integrity.
- Define your space and understand what is needed from you and think before actually jumping in and then regretting as maybe you don’t wish to give that kind of commitment.
- Please don’t mix your emotions and give that as a reason for goofing up on your commitments.
No one forces anyone, it’s a choice taken with one’s self-will and consent. So sticking to it or not is a choice one needs to take at one’s own discretion. Think wise, and act wisely being sincere and truthful to yourself. Here the one person who needs to explain to is self and no one else.
Trust and respect is given to a person who is always committed towards his goals and his work.
When you commit to something that’s causing the soul wishes for it, but failing or not able to keep up clearly shows your own prioritization to self.
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✍️ Palash
In Gratitude to Divine
Spiritual Healer
Samskara Healing
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