WHY DO I NEED TO ACCEPT THE PERSON AS IT IS?
Well, that’s a choice left to you. If you wish to not accept so be it!! But trying to change someone for your own selfish reasons is not the answer to the solution. We need to know that each person has a path layed out for them.
The gift of our free will gives us the liberty and freedom to do what we wish. The choices we take is something we are not answerable to anyone but ourselves. That’s where the issues come when we try to change a person or want them to be a certain way.
There comes a point of conflict and that comes as bitterness to us. We are never prepared to accept no or get rejected. At times one may try to put the best mask and showcase themselves as 100% perfect and in a particular manner. In reality, they may not be that way for whatever reasons.
When we lie and then, in reality, there is something else no one is ready to accept it or let it go. Being truthful and meaningful in a relationship is very much needed. The next is we can never judge a person in a couple of months and jump to conclusions of what or who they are.
Any kind of relationship be it an intimate one with a spouse or close one with friends we need a certain strong basis for a wonderful relationship.
- Trust – this is the opening factor for any relationship and if this is faltered it can get painful. We can build a relationship of trust by speaking truthfully and also being open and frank. Lying or hiding facts really won’t help anyone. As and when trust is broken everything else comes to a grinding halt.
- Communication- having open and clear communication is very much needed. When we do not express ourselves openly about our likes or dislikes and try to build a false image it really won’t be of any help to either of you. When truthful facts are hidden and it comes out later it is never appreciated or even listen to.
- Space:- in any relationship there has to be a certain amount of space given and also allowed. When there is no space given nor understood what is needed will only lead to frustration in understanding the relationship and trying to change things.
- Respect:- this is another key factor for having a wonderful relationship. The first is to accept and love oneself and then the other person. Before picking on them or treating them in a certain manner, think. Accusations can flow easily it never takes time to accuse and point fingers. Whereas respecting and acknowledging someone for what and who they are is very difficult and challenging at times.
- Compromise:- no one is perfect and also everyone has flaws. The important thing here is to work through the flaws and make things work for the betterment of the relationship. If one says why should I compromise? Well, life is about to give and take so one needs to be aware of that. Instead of going searching for one person’s flaws, even look for good things and try to workaround.
- Positive Attitude:- this is for sure needed as if we have a pessimistic mindset or negative thought process no matter what one does they will always face issues and difficulties. The perfect match we have to make it happen here and work on it. What may seem a perfect match will also have differences and issues.
No two humans have the same thought process, though maybe as they spend time together they may somewhere down the line start thinking like that. Life is all about understanding and respecting the person for who he/ she is. It’s not about trying to change them for your likes or beliefs.
They are made that way for a reason and we need to understand that and accept it. Some of the biggest issues one can have are
- Expectations:- this leads to a lot of heartbreaks and disbeliefs as when expectations are not met it can get very difficult for one to even continue in the relationship. All of us have expectations as I have said this is a normal and common human trait.
- Hurt:- this can be due to some misunderstandings or arguments. Now does really want to hold onto this and take it to the next level? That is something to think about.
- Frustration:- as one is not able to face life or accept life for things that are happening in life.
- Betrayal:- This is a tricky one, as once bitten twice shy. Getting betrayed will always make one be very cautious and also can severe ties in the relationship. This can only be worked on if one person wants to work on it.
( will write more in my next blog so look out for it)
Life is not about trying to change someone but it is about witnessing each other and living life with joy.
Be grateful for every relationship that we have as each one brings in beautiful lessons.
Reach out to Samskara Healing if you have an issue or trouble to let go for guidance, support or a session.
🌺Palash 🌺
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